it may be PE.

how old are you...? and how many times before have you had sex?

either one can factor how quick you come for your girlfriend during intercourse.

dont forget, intercourse isnt supposed to last forever. 10min. tops (as Brandye puts it). its the foreplay that counts.

and as Doc has said, (im paraphrasing):

[QUOTE= doc (in my own words)]Sexual intercourse is supposed to be the finshing action for a severly turned on girl/guy. [/QUOTE] ( i dont think i quoted it 100% correctly, but im doing that from memory)

so if you lead your girlfriend to the point of orgasm, having intercourse is supposed to be how you end the whole kit and kaboodle.

hope i helped?

maybe u are just more turned on more in those times than when u last longer

have u read this sites articles on kegle exercises
http://www.sexinfo101.com/is_kegel.shtml

maybe that would help plus you can do 'em nearly anywhere:)

o yeah, the magic kegel
that might work you know.

Yeah, when I first starting having sex with my girlfriend I would never last over 3 minutes, then once in a while it'd take me forever to cum (like over 30 minutes or so). I think it's a comfort issue. Now, i've been with her for almost two years and I can last as long as I want, and I can make her cum multiple times. Jerking off before you have sex with your girlfriend will also help a lot; just do it about 20-30 minutes prior. Breathing slowly during intercourse helps, too. The best technique I use when I feel like I am going to bust quickly is I do the start-stop method. I do it about three times and then I'm good to go.

Vper - oh hell yes she'll make a fuss about it esp if it keeps happening!! She'll dump him for it!! What? 2 pumps and that's it??? You're done??? WTF???

Look we've given you all the info you need - get to work!

me and my fiancee have the same problem. he lasts forever when im sucking him off. but when it comes to the actual intercourse it only lasts maybe 3 minutes tops. other than the "kegel excercise" what else can we do to keep this from happening?

The big three:

1. circumcision

2. condoms

3. masturbating beforehand to take the edge off

and then there is practice, practice, and practice, edge play where he goes up to the brink of orgasm and stops there, and the squeeze technique which is described elsewhere in this forum as a sticky post..

if your guna blow ur guna blow.. nothin u can really do 2 prevent it.. sure there are squeeze and hold techniques.. but if u keep pulling out every minute to squeeze its guna be worse than if u had of just cum the first time..

if u dont make a fuss of it they wont make a fuss of it..

however.. a few things i have found in my experiences... i would usually last about 7-10 mins with a new different girl/new feeling n well now i can go about 15 with a new girl.

how this works is that i just relax n let it slide.. enjoy it.. if im going to cum then i let myself as holding it back is just torture and well yer..

relaxation is good.. emptying out before hand is good, not thinking about cumming 2 quick as 95% of the time u will!

if u think 2 urself 'cant cum now. no not now. no not this early' then by god here it comes. heads up! if you just forget about it and let it happen when it does u will prob find u will last a little bit longer.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;218993]Vper - oh hell yes she'll make a fuss about it esp if it keeps happening!! She'll dump him for it!! What? 2 pumps and that's it??? You're done??? WTF???

Look we've given you all the info you need - get to work![/QUOTE]

if someone is that low to dump someone over a problem one has due to sex. that is LAME...

two people must meet and fall in love for each other.. not based on performance..

so ur saying if someone is really great in bed u will marry them based on that despite having nothing in common or anything??

if you find the right person who likes u for u they will most likely try 2 help u and talk u through it.. in theory.. they should love u for u.. not what u can do.

not having this problem i would not know.. but having other problems like depression for one.. ive never had anyone dump me because i have depression.... its the same kind of thing here. if someone was to dump me over that it would be lame.. for someone to dump u over sex thats also just as lame... the only way to get better n what not is do it more often n practise.. now if ur always bein dumped by ppl who 'love' you how are you going to do that?

Stop being excessively romantic.

1. You only have sex with compatible people
2. You don't have to be "in love" to enjoy sex with that person (not to say that could not happen)
3. Good in bed does not mean rotten person (or vice versa)

If NOTHING she tries helps. If she's constantly being left "unsatisfied". She is NOT going to opt for a lifetime of more of the same. Think about it. Once or twice is one thing but 30 to 40 years of absolutely rotten sex? No thank you.

I mostly agree with Vper. You can't stop and/or pull out every cpl minutes because that irritates some women. On the other hand if you can make it into a teasing game and don't do it constantly that can increase HER level of excitement and give you a breather, so to speak.

Many, probably most ,young men cum quickly during sex. The flip side of that coin is that they also tend to be able to recover and obtain another erection quickly, or they simply retain their erections after ejaculation.

Much can be learned by observing the way your body behaves after orgasm during masturbation. If you stay erect after a masturbatory orgasm you can and will after fellation or coitus. Also see how long it takes to get hard again after ejaculation.

One thing you need to realize is that the more turned on you get your woman the sooner she is likely to reach orgasm during coitus.

If you are involved in coitus and reach orgasm, continue thrusting. That may be all that is needed for her to climax too. Relax. You might stay hard and be able to continue. If not, don't stop working on her. Continue kissing and carressing and performing cunnilingus. You will probably get hard again soon.

My take on:

1) kegels- they make for a more intense orgasm, but I have not noticed that they have ever helped me postpone orgasm.
2) squeeze technique-works for some, but not all. Whenever I tried it it just pushed me over the edge to come.
3) grunt technique- stop thrusting momentarily if orgasm is impending. GRunt and use the same muscles as if you were trying to pass a rather difficult turd. This will relax the muscles related to ejaculation including the PC muscle which you do not want to be tensed up if you are trying to delay.
Practice this technique often during masturbation. You may find that you can eventually ejaculate independently of orgasm. This relieves the pressure in your prostate and allows you to continue thrusting considerably longer.
If during coitus you partner asks what the grunting is about tell her. She shouldn't mind-and if she does...screw her!
4) maybe this should have been number 1! Try not to worry about how long you take to come while you are actually in the act. This will only make control more difficult.
5) don't forget to give her lots of attention during foreplay, during coitus and during afterplay.

One more thing to remember. As men get older they begin to take longer to reach orgasm yet women, as they get older, begin to reach orgasm more quickly in general. SO it only gets better!
6)

I'm 40's and I too still cum to quickly sometimes. When my spouse is on top I have more control. The missionary position is the hardest position to me to control. I think, I need to just relax and slow down before I let go. My wife is so ready to cum that I can't slow her down sometimes and that makes me cum. :mad: If I can get the girl to stop squezzing me and slow down maybe I can last longer than. I like the grunt technique I might try that sometimes.

Premature ejaculation - as in 2 pumps and he's done - is the number one issue for men under 40. Remember a man has two hands and a mouth as well as a penis and there are all kinds of toys. He can always do something. It is when guys don't work on solutions that they get into trouble.

When I was in my early twenties, I could only last around thirty secs to one minute before orgasm (penetration intercourse). Not too nice for the girl who was only getting started. However, amazingly, I could never cum while getting head. Go figure. I started psyching myself out by thinking about other things during intercourse. Trying to detach myself from the moment if you will. That helped some. At around 30, I finally seemed to outgrow that. At 35, I can now pretty much go as long as the woman wants and if she is multi-orgasmic, give her many orgasms. I am now pretty much in control of my orgasms. Oh, occasionally one will sneak up on me, but that doesn't happen often. Premature ejaculation can be very embarrassing and frustrating, not to mention it wreaks havoc with one's the sex life. After that happens about the second or third time with the same woman, they usually are busy when you ask them out again. However, at 35, I still can't cum while getting head and I have met some women who seem to be very into oral. I am not gay, but out of curiosity let a gay friend give me head to see it he could make it happen. No luck.

When I was in my early twenties, I could only last around thirty secs to one minute before orgasm (penetration intercourse). Not too nice for the girl who was only getting started. However, amazingly, I could never cum while getting head. Go figure. I started psyching myself out by thinking about other things during intercourse. Trying to detach myself from the moment if you will. That helped some. At around 30, I finally seemed to outgrow that. At 35, I can now pretty much go as long as the woman wants and if she is multi-orgasmic, give her many orgasms. I am now pretty much in control of my orgasms. Oh, occasionally one will sneak up on me, but that doesn't happen often. Premature ejaculation can be very embarrassing and frustrating, not to mention it wreaks havoc with one's the sex life. After that happens about the second or third time with the same woman, they usually are busy when you ask them out again. However, at 35, I still can't cum while getting head and I have met some women who seem to be very into oral. I am not gay, but out of curiosity I let a gay friend give me head to see it he could make it happen. No luck.

When I was in my early twenties, I could only last around thirty secs to one minute before orgasm (penetration intercourse). Not too nice for the girl who was only getting started. However, amazingly, I could never cum while getting head. Go figure. I started psyching myself out by thinking about other things during intercourse. Trying to detach myself from the moment if you will. That helped some. At around late twenties, I finally seemed to outgrow that. At 35, I can now pretty much go as long as the woman wants and if she is multi-orgasmic, give her many orgasms. I am now pretty much in control of my orgasms. Oh, occasionally one will sneak up on me, but that doesn't happen often. Premature ejaculation can be very embarrassing and frustrating, not to mention it wreaks havoc with one's the sex life. After that happens about the second or third time with the same woman, they usually are busy when you ask them out again. However, at 35, I still can't cum while getting head and I have met some women who seem to be very into oral. I am not gay, but out of curiosity let a gay friend give me head to see it he could make it happen. No luck.

[QUOTE=IMO;219219]When I was in my early twenties, I could only last around thirty secs to one minute before orgasm (penetration intercourse). Not too nice for the girl who was only getting started. However, amazingly, I could never cum while getting head. Go figure. I started psyching myself out by thinking about other things during intercourse. Trying to detach myself from the moment if you will. That helped some. At around late twenties, I finally seemed to outgrow that. At 35, I can now pretty much go as long as the woman wants and if she is multi-orgasmic, give her many orgasms. I am now pretty much in control of my orgasms. Oh, occasionally one will sneak up on me, but that doesn't happen often. Premature ejaculation can be very embarrassing and frustrating, not to mention it wreaks havoc with one's the sex life. After that happens about the second or third time with the same woman, they usually are busy when you ask them out again. However, at 35, I still can't cum while getting head and I have met some women who seem to be very into oral. I am not gay, but out of curiosity let a gay friend give me head to see it he could make it happen. No luck.[/QUOTE]

if your not gay... and you cannot ejaculate to females giving you head.... how is a male going to do it? lol.. ur not sexually attracted to them.. so u say...

is it just straight head or us there some stroking and caressing and wanking so to speak involves as well as the oral side to it.

I repeat: Try not to worry about how long you take to come while you are actually in the act. This will only make control more difficult.
Now try this. RIght before intromission recite the following mantra- This is goingh to be a quicky. Try and keep up with me if you think you can.

I did it this morning. The result was I took much longer than planned, we came together and I was almost late for work.

I would be interested if actually trying to cum faster makes other men seem to last longer too!