No, your not crazy at all. Lots of people have these moments, just make sure you don't become the girl who stalks her BF and you will be fine. My gf has told me she feels like this sometimes, and I can guarantee to you she has nothing to worry about, and from the sound of it, niether do you.

CN is right-you're not crazy, and everyone has these moments. I think your bf is right as well. Our experiences in earlier life most definitely shape our later ideas and reactions to things. No matter what our HEAD knows, sometimes our HEART gets worried. My guess is, after he's returned from his first trip and still loves you just as much as he ever has, you'll be able to relax about this a little more.

Doc, I'm going to borrow a page from your play book, I hope you don't mind: LFL, while he's gone, every time you start to get worried about the possible existence of some intangible female that may or may not like him, immediately force yourself to think something totally unrelated. "No, I'm not going to do this....oh, look how beautiful the sky is" or something like that. Force yourself to trust what you know to be true, and eventually you'll have the fearful thoughts less and less often.

I used to feel that way with my first BF in the beginning. After I came to the realization that it really doesn't matter whether or not someone else likes him, I have never worried about that ever since. After all, even if someone did and he decided to go for them, then he really wasn't all that great anyway. I just had to realize that I am not the only person he would be attracted to and that he wasn't the only person I would be attracted to and that's just how it is. As long as he's trust worthy, I wouldn't worry about it.

Im glad I could help! My girlfriend knows I love her, and everytime I hug her all of her worry goes away. When I am not around, we always keep in touch, and tell each other what we both did that day. Just keep a flow going for communication. Make sure to tell him how much you miss him when you are apart, but mean it.

So yea, I guess all you can do is communicate often. If you still find yourself worrying, maybe find a hobby or somthing to occupy your time and keep your thoughts from lingering.

Why do you have such low self-esteem?

Your mother's problems are NOT yours. Just because your father cheated and divorced your mother does NOT mean this guy will do that to you. (and you do NOT know what when on between your parents so stop thinking you do - some times not even they know themselves.)

You KNOW all of this. So why are you being so silly? FEAR.

This is what you do. Rather than distracting yourself or you reaching out for the telephone, face it head on. He left you. He cheated on you found someone he liked better and he cruelly dumped you flat. Okay. So now what? You grieve. Okay - so grieve, get it all out - you have 15 minutes. Then think - was it you or was it him or was it neither of you? THINK; do not feel, just be rational and cold about dissecting the situation. You may not come up with an answer but that's not the point. The point is doing the work. Ask yourself - am I dead yet? The answer is NO you aren't - so what were you so damn afraid of?

Nothing really.

There are lots of men out there, some good, some bad, and most just men. Nice that you have one you like and long may it continue but it is not the end of life as we know it. By facing up to your fears head on and without pretence you conquer them and you stop doing stupid silly things like being paranoid which only leads to behaving stupidly and driving the man you want away from because he now thinks you're some clingy pyscho-bitch.

Got it?

Good girl!

[QUOTE=lustforlove;219047]OK.. I've been with my boyfriend almost 2 years now and i know for a fact that at my age that is a real achievment. I have had no doubt in my mind whatsoever since we got together that he doesn't absolutly adore me, because he tells me all the time and i feel really loved around him, and so i obvioulsy love him and adore him just as much back.

Recently however, for no reason that i can think of, i have become crazy with paronoia. I know i have no reason to think he is cheating on me or anything because i know for a fact he would never do anything like that no matter what, but my head seams to be telling me otherwise and it's not like a gut instinct or anything it is just my head.

I've talked to him about it and he's convinced it's because my parents had a really messy devorce because the whole family found out my father had been cheating on my mum with her best friend at the time. He thinks I'm just scared of that happening to me, because i saw, lived through and helped my mum through the pain and heart break she felt.

I do understand where that comes from and i think it may play a fairly big part in why i may feel like that, but i know my boyfriend is nothing like that, and i know that would be the last thing on his mind.

The thing that sparked this off i think is finding out how often my boyfrind is going to be away this summer, and that we will have little time together. I found it strange because i feel i can trust him to control himself even when say for instance he may meet some girl and she throw herself at him, but i'm most scared of a girl liking him. Is that weird I know even if a girl does like him he wont make anything from it because he's with me.

I know how crazy i sound rite now which is why i would wonder, does anyone else ever feel like this? does anyone know how to coupe with it? or am i so crazy that i should go see a shrink? because i really don't know what's going on anymore.[/QUOTE]

well i dont know your bf so i cant say for sure but i have had feelings like that befor about some of my ex-gfs and still do from time to time but i love my current gf and i used to spend quite a bit of time away from her i have even slept at 1 of my ex houses while dating my current gf and have not ever had the urge to cheat because of the love i have for her and the love she has from me so i would assume if he loves you as much as you say then i think its safe to say your not crazy just normal and that you have nothing to worrie about because not all guys will cheat

I'd be unhappy to lose my men and it would take ALOT more than 'cheating' to do it, but I would survive. There will be other men in my life and each one will be specia in his own way, just as I am special in my own way.

But that is the point: there really is no one who is just like you - ever. You are entirely unique. Yeah you have your flaws ad your vrtues, as we all do, but no one has exactly the same mix of talents, flaws, and virtues as you do.

Rejoice in who you are, accept who you are, and you will have no fear.

EEK, I am sure it is highly unlikely that you would have any trouble replacing
any of them. Fair statement?