My gf and i have been having sex for a few months. When we have sex i am always on top. She offers to get on top, but when she does it just doesnt seem to work. I am slightly larger than average, but it just doesnt seem to go in at all.
Sun, 08/31/2008 - 07:46
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Cowgirl position wont work
Be sure she's good and wet. You just need to work with it. This is the position I mostly use with my bf and there are some times that it gets to be a bit of a challenge to get it in just right, but we always do, so don't get discouraged. It's all learning and experimentation, you'll get it.
This position is my wife's favorite. Don't give up on it. All you can do is keep trying. Maybe have her lean towards you a bit so that the angle is a bit more natural. After you're all the way in she can sit up and go to town. You're also likely to fall out if she rides up and down on you. Just have her sit down and grind up against you - my wife loves that and it's a great position from which to see her enjoy herself.
Please understand that the geometry is different. While your penis may slip right in using the Missionary position, when she is on top the angle of your penis will quite possibly touch different areas within the vagina. I do not understand why actual entry would be different.
I regularly recommend the Woman Superior for new couples. Try letting her bring P to V and positioning her body as she feels best while inserting your penis. There are many benefits to this position and this is one of them.
What Doc says is spot on. It is likely that she is straight up as compared tot he angle when you are on top. Another possibility is that when she is straddling you, she is tensing some muscles in her upper thingh or lower abdomen tending to squeeze her closed.
I agree with Doc that woman on top is often better for new couples because the woman has a greater sense of control. This eases her fear of pain and allows her to get the angles she needs. Practice!!
[QUOTE=Visioneer;223847]You're also likely to fall out if she rides up and down on you. Just have her sit down and grind up against you - my wife loves that and it's a great position from which to see her enjoy herself.[/QUOTE]
Only thing with the grinding is, my bf really needs the thrusting, so we just kind of put up with the slipping out thing on the few occasions that it happens. You also eventually learn approximately how far you can lift.
I need the thrusting to orgasm as well, but the fun tends to be rather short lived if we do that right away. She can grind away on top as long as she wants, and it's a huge turn-on for me to see her getting off. This way she gets her fill, I get to enjoy the show, and when she's ready she helps me finish.