ok me and my girlfriend have been together for a while and we finally we able to have sex and it was like i couldnt get hard at all she even performed oral sex and still nothing it was just a very weird moment for me i smoke ciggs and drink everyonce in a while does that have anything to do with it someone please tell me what happened thanks
Mon, 12/17/2007 - 00:13
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Couldn't get hard - little help please
In a word: Nerves.
Second word: Stress.
Spend plenty of time just enjoying the moments and make out for half an hour or more before ever advancing to foreplay. Focus on pleasuring each other and not on performance. This problem will fix itself in two ways.
Way #1: as you become more comfortable and familiar with each other
Way #2: as you quite literally stop worrying.
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i heard smoking contracts the blood vessels and prevents you from getting a massive BONER. you should try cutting back man. thats probably part of it. i also read in a magizine that "getting it up" is also very much connect to you personal diet and fitness. just throwing it out there :)
Unfortunately for what you've heard, the blood vessels into the penis are not the small ones that are heavily affected by cigarettes- those are in the fingers and toes. Relaxation is necessary because a relaxed penis is an erect penis.
Doc has it correctly.
With any new partner - the first time is the worst because of anxiety. Proper preparation will help.
Before the date, make sure you are prepared. Masturbate just enough to take the edge off, hydrate, make sure you have condoms and lubricant handy, and clean yourself up so you look and smell good. Make sure your fingernails are spotless.
Review the sticky post The Program and next time do your best to implement it.
That should calm both partner's nerves.
thanks i also have problems lasting a long time is it a mind thing like i have been hearing? thanks again
It can be a mind thing, yes. But stress, fatigue, and becoming dehydrated can also take their toll on a man's "longevity".
So can I infer from your statement that when I do become old that I will actually live to a ripe (?) old age and won't shrivel and become all dried up? That my skin won't wrinkle? That I won't look like a bald prune? That my stature won't go from erect to a skeletal framework that adopts an "S-" curve? I believe I shall turn to drink.
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Water, that is, and lots of it.
Sounds like you're worrying too much about it rather than just relaxing & going with the flow. As mentioned before a lot of it has to do with the frame of mind that you're in.
Can you get an erection normally when you're on your own?
yea i can get a erection normally on my own