Alright so me and this girl are foreplaying/making out/ all that good stuff for about 15 min. I was really into it and wanted to f*** her. But...I couldn't get hard at all. So then she started to jack me off, feel on the balls etc... and I was still like 3/4 the way there and still couldn't get all the way hard. so then i started the finger her at the same time and i still couldn't. So I decided to just try to put on the condom and maybe if i stuck it in I would get hard... but what happends?... I put it on and now im like half hard. I took off the condom and told her giving me head would definitly get me hard but she says she doesn't do that. I asked again and she was just mad she couldnt have sex, and you know me... i was really mad. anyway here are some details:
she was really drunk, I was drunk still.
this was at 2 in the morning.
Even after she said she wouldnt give me head I tried to think about sex and tried to get hard in any way I could but couldnt. So i went to go asleep and fell asleep about right away.
she definitly is attractive. she isnt ugly so that couldnt have been why.
So whats the deal here? Is it that maybe cause I was drunk? Or I was too tired and my penis wasn't getting enough blood flow? Or what? all i know is that I was really into the foreplay and so forth but when it came down to getting hard I just couldnt get 100% even in 20 minutes. But if I go look at a porn I get a boner in like 10 seconds.
can someone tell me what some factors are here? Thanks alot.
alright thanks
How well did you know her? Maybe you weren't completely comfortable with her. Maybe it wasn't whiskey dick, being you said you had this problem when you were sober. I think it was a performance issue myself. Just try to relax the next time. My b/f I'm with now had the problem the first time I was with him. It was nerves. He was afraid he wouldn't please me. He was so wrong!!!! I reassured him he was totally hot and loved being with him (he's the best). Well, now that we know each other better, that is not an issue any longer, except when we've been out to the clubs and he's had a few drinks. Believe me, I try to keep that down to a minimum.
thanks for the replys everyone. Yea it has happend when i was sober too. A FEW times.
It think you just had whisky dick. It wasn't her and it wasn't you it was the alcohol. Does it happen when you are sober?
This is a common question, some men stay hard the whole time when drunk and can't while sober and others, such as yourself probably, can not become fully hard while drunk ever, my advice, lay off the alcohol before sex.
I think all the blood was rushing to your brain and not your cock because you're thinking about your cock not getting hard! Stop thinking about it so much and just let it happen.
I've found in the past that I've been a little too sexually aggressive and men couldn't always keep it up. What's up with that?
You need to find someone you feel comfortable learning with, its not a medical problem…the last time was the liquor more than anything but your first few times never go well anyway. A lot of guys my self included have had trouble the first few times, the more you obsess about not getting hard, the worse the problem will get. Lol kinda like riding a bike, not a whole lota people can just get on and go their first time
oh yeah and i should add as well that my very first time i couldnt even get hard back when i was 15... and then another time about a few months ago i couldnt get hard as well. should i see a doctor or buy viagra or something?
to top it off while i was fingering her, she was Really tight! and in my head i was like oh my God... but this still didn't help. i was so pissed....
Comedian Dave Attell calls that whisky dick…. I would guess your problems were 1 part performance anxiety and 3 parts drunkenness…which btw lowers your ability to perform.
[QUOTE=Quote (Swoledaddy904 @ Oct. 17 2005,23:36)]oh yeah and i should add as well that my very first time i couldnt even get hard back when i was 15... and then another time about a few months ago i couldnt get hard as well. should i see a doctor or buy viagra or something?[/QUOTE]
Well, if you didnt get hard at all, viagra isnt what you need.
It doesnt get you hard, it just keeps you hard once you are fully aroused.
Sounds to me like its performance anxiety, apart from the last time probably being accredited to the alc.
I think know what you mean though, I'm a very mental person. Even if I'm horny as hell, if my minds somewhere else - an unresolved issue or something - I cant get hard unless I can get into the moment.
Some people just dont have that problem, they can push that stuff out of their mind completely.
I also have had performance anxiety on many occasions, not just thinking of other things, but the fact that youre then focusing on the fact that its NOT hard or not staying fully hard for various reasons.
If you can get and keep a rocky on your own (in most guy's most comfortable situation - with no performance anxiety) then you dont need viagra. Because you don't have erectile dysfunction, you have anxiety issues in the past, or just drunk issues in this case..