Well, my boyfriend and me have been together for quite some time now. He used to be able to last a long time during sex, but for the past few months he just seems to come quickly. Then we encountered another problem, we had sex and it lasted for ages, I had many orgasms and he was enjoying it majorly. He said that he felt like he was just about to come but for some reason couldn't. If it isn't one extreme its the other.
Is there any hints on how to stop him from coming so soon?
And...is there any particular reason that a guy would find it hard to come, even if he says he feels he is about to, and was obviously enjoying it?:confused:
Some men if they tend to orgasm quickly, when they try to hold off miss the opportunity and after waiting too long (even though it feels good) cannot. Read through Dancin Doc's sticky post about the "Gentle Art of Humping".
So was it a more pshycological thing, he just missed his chance and thats why he ended up lasting so long.
More or less...yes. Perhaps go back to having a lot of foreplay and start intercourse when ready to have an orgasm.
Read through here:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/sexual_health_men/19797-squeeze_and_trai...
We hardly do any foreplay anyway because it brings him too close and comes without the sex. As long as we are both in the mood we skip the foreplay and just go straight for it, it causes us no problems because he will be ready for it and I will be wet enough for it. We never used to have these problems though its only recently that he has been coming too quickly. Could it be that he is just too turned on or something?
He's probably worried sick about this!
Look, if he comes too quickly, he can finish you off using other methods so no big deal, right? Then with foreplay, he can come back and you two can have another round. No problem!
Same thing if he goes too long. Relax, take a break, then back to the foreplay and then the next round making sure he does orgasm this time.
The thing is to relax, enjoy what you can, and try it again if he's capable. If not - there's always tomorrow. This is not the Olympics and no one's keeping score.
personallyu i wouldnt say anything but if i ddnt maybe you could make a move to finish him hes prolly nervous as it seems hes having shifts in it
I had this problem before, It was just that I didn't want to finish, and in the end I just couldn't.
I had the same feeling, the pushing feeling that I am just about to come, and I brace myself for it, but nothing happened.
As long as you don't make a big deal out of it, he wont have any problems for next time.
hm if I try to last too long masturbating a miss it you can prolong a bit but so much and you won't come at all
By what it seems, he can handle a second one nicely, so that's the way to go :) foreplay and coming back for a second round