For now a days i am pretty old to be a virgin, 19. So i still got some questions. My girl and i come from very conservative families. we are both not very educated in these things.
I think me and my girl want to do it soon. I got a fear of getting her preg. she is smart and has alot to live for and i dont want to ruin those chances for one night of fun.
She cant get on the pill, her parents would notice, and her and i are both scared of them when it comes to this subject.
I ofcourse will use a condom. Which is the best in terms of protection and plessure?
How do we figure out the time of month she is least likly to become pregnant?
thanx
[QUOTE=Quote (hoplessromantic @ Aug. 25 2004,16:18)]i figure the whole having to apply the jelly and all might kill the mood. yet it would keep us in a safter range Guess its a Catch 22[/QUOTE]
some people say the same thing about condoms but ya know whats an even bigger mood kill is a baby lol.
besides, i think the suppositories and stuff can be inserted prior to sex so you don't really notice.
would i still be in good shape if i just used a condom with spermecide.
i figure the whole having to apply the jelly and all might kill the mood. yet it would keep us in a safter range Guess its a Catch 22
so basically 13 days after her period would be a safe time?
At this point, I would recommed using a spermicidal jelly (OrthO II or KY-Plus) and a condom. The combination places you at a protection level roughly the same as being on the pill. Other forms of spermicidal protection - foam, suppository, film - are fine. She will need a "stater" kit with an applicator for the jelly or foam. Conceptrol comes pre-packaged in an applicator.
Timing is of little use for a dating couple. The safest time is a few days either side of her period but using condoms and spermicide should put you in good shape.
and brandye's suggestion works too. lol.
i forgot about the spermicidal jelly thing. lol.
and as she said, the "safest" would be a few days before or after her period. i would personally suggest before, but really, whichever you prefer or is more "convenient".
go to the store and get yourself some condoms. i prefer trojan condoms but others prefer other brands.
i suggest lubricated ones as well. and possibly some with spermecide if you can find it.
grab some lube (i.e. astroglide) while you're there.
a normal sized condom works for most people so just stick with that.
some also prefer ribbed condoms. some don't. some prefer ultra thin, some don't. since you are new to this, just get your basic condom for now. when you get more experienced you will discover what you like and what you're willing to try and then you can venture from there.
as for the time of the month thing, it really all depends on her cycle.
some people ovulate during their period. some don't.
the average is 12 to 18 days into the cycle (or something like that). this site might be of use to you if you don't mind reading about it.
http://www.kotex.com/info/period/yrcycle.asp