I was just wondering what I can do to consistantly help bring my wife to a large climax. The last two times I went down on her I used similar techniques as before: lots of breast play kissing caressing, fingering, before finally going down there. In the past she took lots of direct clitoral stimulation with my tongue and sucking, but the last two times it's like I can't stimulate it enough. She starts feeling tingly like a big one is comming then nothing. One time when this happened I just got rougher and it did bring her to climax but I have been unsuccessfull the last two attempts. She is three months pregnant but that doesn't seem to affect her drive. We have noticed when she is "tingly" before we even get started she is more likely to have one. She consistantly has what she calls little ones, but it really is discouraging for her when she doesn't have a large one. In the past she usually only wanted a big one about once a week. We have sex probably 5 times a week, but only try for her a big one when she wants to.
Are there any suggestions for us being more consistant is it hormonal, anatomical, physical, or mental issues that cause this inconsistancy? Or is this just normal? thanks
Mon, 11/26/2007 - 23:09
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Consistant Orgasms
Orgasms to order? No. Sorry but one cannot really guarantee that. Even someone as "push the button" as I am, has orgasms of varying intensities. Perhaps following The Program will get you close but I doubt that there is a completely reliable method.
The Program:
1. massage
2. necking/erotic massage
3. body worship
4. manual
5. cunnilingus/fellatio
6. cunnilingus/fellatio with manual
7. G-Spot caressing using head of penis
8. posterior fornix caressing using head of penis
9. repeat the last two alternating for as long as he can hold out
pause if required by returning to body worship
10. his climax and then cuddling
11. rest
12. repeat entire program at least three times per session.
Ideally she should have a climax at each location and with each method. That would be at 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, and 9, 9, 9, 9, 9...
OK so let me get this straight EEK, so the guy should cum 12 times? and the female at least 15? I mean we have to repeat 3 times, and Im guessing that the guy should finish at 4 5 6 and 10....That is definitely a workout. Let me know how many guys you know who can do this lol.
Ducy I think this is the regime you need to get you "under control" :)
lol
Definitely. I can tell everyone here this much. I dont care how interesting the girl is, if she does anything like EEKs schedule, I am never ever leaving her lol.
I know of precisely THREE men who can do this. And they all are collared to me. Naturally! I'm not one to let such men get away! And they are all over 40 years of age! They have been on this schedule for three years now.
[QUOTE=Ducy;200619]Definitely. I can tell everyone here this much. I dont care how interesting the girl is, if she does anything like EEKs schedule, I am never ever leaving her lol.[/QUOTE]
I am up for it Ducy ;).
:D
So, gierrmo, has this given you any ideas?
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;200654]So, gierrmo, has this given you any ideas?[/QUOTE]
It gave me lots of ideas but I really don't think she would last. After a big one she's finished. She will go ahead and let me finish but beyond that she's through. I usually want to again. Even after a second time I could keep going if she ever wanted to.
Thanks for the tips on getting to that point though. We have not had much luck with penile g-spot and fornix massage. The only way I can get her to have a big one is with direct clitoral stimulation. She does like manual g-spot stimulation with cunniligus though. My penis is 7" long and easily reaches either spot but our technique could be off any suggestions? Thanks for the replies.
The 'trick' to having multiple "big ones" is for her to remain relaxed and deeply breathing in a calm fashion - rolling with the orgasm, not tensing up against it. Tension diminishes orgasms; it doesn't heighten them. Remember that the "pain" is just a false signal to more stimuli and her being unaccustomed to being orgasmic for extended periods.
To help her do this, after her orgasm, return to the body worship - keeping her aroused and "simmering". then ease into bringing her back to the orgasm.
Lubricate your penis well and think "caress" as opposed to "thrust" when going for G-Spot and posterior fornix. G-Spot caress up. Posterior fornix caress down. I'm not saying draw rings around your penis "this far for G-Spot" etc. but you should have an idea how far to enter to hit just the right areas.
Practice makes perfect!
EEK, I read a previous post of yours on body worship. When I massage my wife it tends to have the opposite effect. It seems to give her complete relaxation, but not really arousal. Is it my technique??
Thanks for the tips on her relaxing during a climax she really tenses up.
Gierrmo,
Face some reality. Your wife is pregnant. That means physical change, hormonal change, emotional change, changes in the house and on.....
There is a sticky on sex and pregnancy and many women really like it; some do not; more vary during the three trimesters. This is a time to do what is wanted, take what is given and not assume responsibility for your wife's response. She needs to recognize that the pregnant body is not quite the same, chemically as well as physically, as her previous body. If she has unrealistic expectations and you feed into them, you are both in for disappointment.
And start practicing the position I recommend in that sticky for the third trimester.
[QUOTE=Brandye;200670]Gierrmo,
Face some reality. Your wife is pregnant. That means physical change, hormonal change, emotional change, changes in the house and on.....
There is a sticky on sex and pregnancy and many women really like it; some do not; more vary during the three trimesters. This is a time to do what is wanted, take what is given and not assume responsibility for your wife's response. She needs to recognize that the pregnant body is not quite the same, chemically as well as physically, as her previous body. If she has unrealistic expectations and you feed into them, you are both in for disappointment.
And start practicing the position I recommend in that sticky for the third trimester.[/QUOTE]
This is our second child and the sex was great during the first pregnancy. Most of the time especially during the 2nd and 3rd trimester she almost couldn't get enough. Strangely enough though we didn't discover the big climaxes and her being comfortable with oral sex till about 8 months ago. (not during either pregnancy) We've been married 8 1/2 yrs. I don't think wanting a big climax once a week would be an unrealistic expectation for her to have and me to feed on especially if the drive is there do you?
Brandye, how does one find the sticky you mentioned?
Under Sexual Health: Women. It is titled Sex and Pregnancy.
Her desire during the second and third trimesters is not unusual. Not many women really like it during the first trimester - nausea, new sensitivities - but many come on really strong during the second. The third trimester seems to be a toss-up - some want it and some do not.
No, wanting a good orgasm once a week is not unrealistic. Except each pregnancy is different. It can even vary day to day with position of the baby, hormones flowing, weight gained and a host of variables.
thank you all for your help