Hello all! My husband and I have been together for 8 years and recently we have been discussing a threesome, us and another lady. He wasn't the one who brought it up, I was. We are very happily married and very, very much in love...I can honestly say that we have never had an argument or fight. Of course, we have had a few disagreements, but those were easily talked out. So, this isn't something we're considering to "save our marriage" or anything like that. This is also something we're not taking lightly or jumping into without a lot of communication and research. I read that a couple that has a strong bond and love like ours, that an experience like a threesome will only make the marriage and love stronger.
I want to experience what it is like to be with a woman, and while it is an exciting prospect for him as well to be with her, he is more looking forward to how it is going to be for me to experience it. He also said that he would be more than happy just to watch if that's what I wanted. But, for me, I think it would be very hot to watch him with her as well.
So, I do have a few questions...any answers will be appreciated from those of you that have experienced a threesome, those of you that have not and any in between! :)
First of all, how do you go about looking for a third to join you? How do you bring the subject up to her? We've already discussed that I would be the one "picking her up" and that he would be my "wingman". :D So, I need to know the technique, I suppose!
Did you set any rules for your threesome? (i.e. No kissing, etc) Is there anything that should be off limits? We both have talked about separating the emotional from the physical and that's something we can both do...he isn't going to be giving her what he gives me and vice versa.
Ladies, what would be the ultimate thing for someone to do for you in a threesome? We know that we have to make her the focus of the get together, so I'd love to hear what would really turn you on in this situation.
Lastly, for you couples that have done this, how is/was the marriage afterward? Any regrets at all?
Thanks for any input or answers! Like I said, we aren't going into this without getting any info we can on the subject.