OK, girls, this could be here or in Chick Chat but I thought it worthwhile to let the men know we are on to them! In an old Golden Post (I do not know where they went) I made the point that it is the female body that gets pregnant and it is ultimately our responsibility to keep it from becoming pregnant. Among teens with irregular sex lives, I recommend condoms with spermicide (jelly, foam, film, suppository, sponge) in the vagina. Most polls reflect that teen women are most frequently protected by condoms – if they are protected.

All women have been subject to male pressure to not use condoms. Biologically, the male role is “spread his sperm” so this could be considered natural behaviour. Among their peers, I am sure there is a lot of bragging about going bare. And there is no question that there is a slight dulling of the sensation. Measured against the risks, this is trivial and honest men will level with you on that.

I thought it would be interesting to share the con jobs we are subjected to get us to take inordinate risk. The list of con jobs I have heard is simply a starter. Please add yours:

You are near your period, it is safe.
You are mid-month, it is safe.
I’ll only put the head in.
I won’t come in you.
It feels unnatural with a condom.
Just for a few minutes.
I’ll just rub it in your crack.
I’ll just rub it in your hair.
(His) girlfriend lets him!
(She) does it all the time.
If you loved me, you would let me.
I have done it lots of times; I can hold it.
If you are on top, you can pull off.
I always pull out; never missed.
I want some of your lube on me, then the condom.
If you are on top, it will just drain out.
I’ll stick it in the other hole.

I have diagnosed pregnancy and received each of these explanations. One young women had an intact hymen and was pregnant as a result of anal sex. It is ultimately your responsibility. Let’s see how long a list we can come up with of dumb con jobs we have heard.

Back in my condom days, I always put the condom on him – some never lasted beyond this, – I always guided him in to check that the condom was rolled all the way on and I always “helped” with the withdrawal to insure that condom did not stay inside me. There were still some close calls and that is why I always had vaginal jelly in me for a last protection.