nothing here to help with Friend. You already anserd your own question. You said you dont want your first tim,e to be with a girl there is no conection with. This is your body and your choice. If your not happy with the situation then dont throw out your values. Be true to who you are and there will be lots of other girls. Plus you will feel better for waiting till you found a girl you want it with.

so realy the only question is...are you willing to abandon what YOU belive in..for quick sex?. Thats your choice to make and no amount of advice or help will help you make it. Good luck hun

[QUOTE=Thecalliton;277329][COLOR="blue">Hey guys... im in a bit of a crisis here.... This girl is currently my only chance at experiencing sex,[/COLOR]

Perhaps for the foreseeable future--certainly not "only".

Crisis? Please do not blow this all out of proportion!
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she told me a few things that she doesnt like. kissing, blowjobs, long sex. [/COLOR]

Trusting that you have read the articles about how to arouse a woman, what is this telling you about her? What is her definition of "long sex"?
* Prolonged intercourse?
* Prolonged make out sessions?
* Both?

Kissing? Any guy or just you?
It is evident that she has no clue how to arouse herself or perhaps not even the importance of doing so.

Oral sex, I'll give her that one, conditionally. Before I do, I'd like to know what she does not like about it. If she has a good reason--OK.

She also doesnt want emotional involvement... I guess im different from most guys in that i almost need an emotional and personal connection before i can even think about having sex with a girl. I don't want my first time, or any time for that matter, to be with someone that just wants to get their rocks off... I want it to matter, i want there to be caring on both sides. not necessarily love, but definatly care.

[COLOR="blue">So i've got to decide if losing my virginity to someone who I wont ever have that connection with is worth it.[/COLOR]

Not in my experience. To each their own. What's the point? An emotional connection (read: chemistry &/or "sparks") gets us aroused to a much more intense level than by simply masturbating!

[COLOR="blue">Please help me... I just want to figure this out before I regret something.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

I don't think you need our input at this point in time. Do what your gut tells you to do, not your hormones.

-doc

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This girl is currently my only chance at experiencing sex, but she told me a few things that she doesnt like. kissing, blowjobs, long sex. [/QUOTE]

So she's just going to lie there like a dead fish?? If there's no sparks/chemistry there, then I think you're just better off moving on and finding someone else.

Sounds to me like this girl is AFRAID. She's afraid of losing control so she grabs onto what little she has with both hands and demands more from you into the bargain. There are many reasons why this would be so but this combination of bold then timid then fearfulness then setting conditions is not a good one.

She is not a suitable sexual partner. Keep looking.

No need to settle for second best, lose it the way YOU want to, not just because you feel pressured to do it quickly.