some erections are different, for me some days im really really hard and some days im not, yes when you get really really hard its tickers and longer but not a whole lot, lol if that makes sence. And for the part of him not making you bleed tell him dont worry, my best friend didnt make his gf bleed their first time. hope this helps.

Size, what an interesting question, considering what we usually read about "am I big enough for my age". Thank you for this interesting twist!

> after the making out and some touching eachother, he put a condom on. He was really hard. Anyways he tried getting it in but slipped around because of my hymen. after a few attempts he lost his erection.

Such happenstances are common. Erections often seem to have a mind of their own waxing and waning as if driven by events we have no control over. This is pretty much true. Another truth is that the quality or strength of an erection is different depending upon whether we are home alone or with a lover we are attracted to. We become turned on and aroused to a much greater degree when with a lover than we do when alone with our thoughts and fantasies.

Hymens are not all the same. Some are thick, some are thin, some have one or more openings and some along with the former completely obstruct the passage way--or not. To each her own, so to speak. In addition, not all remain (completely) intact until first intercourse as it possible for them to partially or completely erode away over a girl's life and/or tear as a result of physical activities. Because of all these factors, not all will bleed when torn. The pain or discomfort experience varies also and the severity is often predicated upon a person's tolerence for pain.

Loosing an erection when attempting first penetration is not at all unusual. It can happen as he says because of a script going on in his head; it can also happen as a result of encountering pressure that repeatedly presses against the root structure at the base of the shaft as he attempts to enter. It should be no big deal and for other couples reading this about to be in this situation, please do not make it one.

> Then he had to pump it up again. It wasnt as hard I guess. I dont know.

Just one comment for the future for your consideration. Feel free to "pump it up" yourself anytime you want, it is certainly not his responsibility alone. ;) More often than not, if you take matters into your own hands, his erection will be harder due to the emotional connection between you!

> This is where I get confused. The erection part! Is it bigger when its really hard? Or is it just longer?

The quality of a person's erection hinges on how aroused he has become. This is why I mentioned, above, about having a much more intense hard-on when in the company of a lover. That said, overall size is fixed, although, I can personally tell you that when I am about to climax my penis feels like it wants to expand and burst! in an attempt to push against the wall of the skin.

I'm not sure if an erect penis is longer and/or wider in response to stimulation. I think it probably is what it is, "full blown" if you will.

> I thought an erection was an erection, maybe a little harder. Not bigger.

As you no doubt know, a penis is in a constant state of flux, it grows and shrinks from completely flaccid to fully erect and can hover at any size and firmness in between for awhile before changing. Firmness also varies from individual to individual. I've seen a fully erect penis that was very pliable and others that were as rigid as wood (woody?). To each his own.

> Is it wider when its really hard?

Asked and answered.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Btw it is "My boyfriend and I" - always put the other person first.
The size of the penis depends upon how much he has and how much blood flows into it. So, yes, it can vary a trifle both in length and width.

K this is a sex post...not a grammer post.....sorry were here for advice on sex and relationships not proper grammer

Please ignore the second half of my answer thank you.

> > Is it wider when its really hard?

Maybe I did not answer this completely.

A flaccid penis can be extremely tiny, often becoming more so when cold and/or walking out of a swimming pool, lake, river, ocean, or pond. A normally flaccid penis at room temperature can be any length from an inch or so (maybe the length of his thumb, for example) to nearly the size of a fully erect penis. Most grow considerably in length and circumference when becoming erect; although some guys find that their penis does not grow much if at all, just becoming hard and perhaps adopting the characteristic list up, down, or slightly to the left or right.

The answer to your question is that for most guys, the penis does expand considerably in length and in diameter when becoming erect. As mentioned, previously, it is not uncommon for a guy to feel in the moments immediately preceeding a climax that his penis is trying to expand beyond the limits of his skin and burst. This happens more when he is extremely turned on as when he is with a lover than when alone.

A few notes, some of which might be obvious, but I can't tell:

- Getting an erection happens unconsciously, that is: you don't decide to "pump it up," and do something to make it stiff. For the most part, it "just happens," though an ordinary guy can control it somewhat by controlling (to the extent possible) what he's looking at or thinking about or, obviously, by physically stimulating it himself.

- The size difference between flaccid and erect varies from guy to guy. At the very least, it gets a little bigger (lengthening from, say, 5 to 6 inches). At the most, the difference may be quite dramatic.

- Flaccid ones also shrink in response to cold. Again, this apparently varies from guy to guy. The ones that are larger when flaccid presumably have more room to shrink.

- Fully erect is fully erect. There's no "more than" or "bigger than" fully erect. It may feel, or even look, that way to the guy (smaller hands holding it, for one thing :) ). A normal post-adolescent male has been fully erect thousands of times: you can't make it bigger or stiffer than that (with a few exceptions: (i) I'm told that extreme measures like "penis pumps" can temporarily make it slightly bigger and (ii) there are some guys who have difficulty becoming fully erect ... well, everybody, eventually, if they live long enough).

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;158483]Btw it is "My boyfriend and I" - always put the other person first.[/QUOTE]

well having p!ssed us off with her ideals on promiquity she now thinks that grammer has a stonger point in holding domain what next evilevilkitten cooking leassons ? I could use some...

oh cmon that is a bit overdoing it don't you think ? I only flame people that act in a non democratic manner no need to make fun now thats not democratic people should be respectful of one another regardless of what we think of one anothers ideas. I must say the quality of this board is gradually deminishing it used to be a very well kept well mannered place of discussion

OMG! As if putting the other person first doesn't apply to most of life - to a point. NewtoLove if you have a personal gripe do private messages.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;158599]OMG! As if putting the other person first doesn't apply to most of life.[/QUOTE]

wow i never thought you were so thoughtful of your "males"

well how shall I put it having had to understand that we don't want to live under the reign of your promiquos undefatigable rules you now try to lead us in a quest of pure grammer nothing personal about you are a disruptive presence because one way or another you have to lead.

oh i hope I got all this spelled right but I won't take offence if you wish to correct every little mistake I may have made infact if you are sso good in gramar ecc please feel welcome to visit my web site linked in my sig and inform me of any spelling or grammer errors as in that I do try to be perfect cit being my personal creation

Newtolove, didn't you hear? The latest gossip I had heard was that evilevilkitten was teaching phone sex as a second language!

Repeat after me: "Oh wow, I am so wet. Let's go have sex in the bibliotheque..."

Just kidding.

Happy Humping, y'all!