Anxious

[SoraCooper]

Hey...

I'm 16 and had been having sex w/ my boyfriend for about a month or so now.
I've been taking the birth control pill since a while and still using it.

Yesterday night, we decided to have sex without a condom, since we were running short. Everything went on smoothly and I took my pill this morning like I do everyday.

Sadly, I'm a very anxious person and I'm VERY affraid of getting pregnant.

Could anyone just reasure me that I'm worying for nothing?
(I've been having annoying stomach ache and slight nausea because of stress and I really want it to go away...)

[epicsexy]

If it makes you feel better, you feeling sick is probably you being so worried as it would be too soon to have morning sickness.

[Ducy]

Just wear a condom next time. You both should be protecting yourself because condoms also prevent sti's.

And not using them because you were "running low" is a terrible excuse.

BTW Hi Epic!

[dancingdoc2]

Using the pill? Using a condom--sometimes? If only sometimes and not always, why even use them at all? In order to be effective, condoms have to be used each and every time, otherwise what is the point?

If you are not ready or prepared to become a mother, then you should be looking out for A#1--you and protecting yourself always.

If your boyfriend is not ready or prepared to become a father, then he should be looking out for A#1--himself and protecting himself always.

If the two of you are going to use protection when convenient and only when you have an ample supply of pills and rubber, then you are not demonstrating sufficient responsibility for adult behavior. If you are going to engage in adult activities, then you have to also be prepared for any consequences of your actions. Are you?

I wonder if your stress is precipitated by your actions?

-doc

[dancingdoc2]

If you have been reading my replies then you may have run across a few in which I state that making love or having sex is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other--in partnership. This being the case, and in addition to the above, the two of you should be concerned about protecting each other.

This third form of protection is to use a spermicide, also. Use all three, or at the very least it and the pill should you ever run low on condoms. Better yet, if there is a question about safety or protection, have the gumption to hold off on your pleasure until.....

[SoraCooper]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

If the two of you are going to use protection when convenient and only when you have an ample supply of pills and rubber, then you are not demonstrating sufficient responsibility for adult behavior. If you are going to engage in adult activities, then you have to also be prepared for any consequences of your actions. Are you?

We don't use condoms only on occasions or when "convenient". We both are very responsible people. We know the dangers of not using a condom. We usually use one every time we have an intercourse. It was only this one time, and I don't intend on doing it again soon, because it causes me too much stress. And we took this decision since I'm taking my pill. We would NEVER have sex without protection.

[Aphrodite_66]

But you did have sex without protection,and I have to agree with both Ducy and DD2.Condoms protect you from sexually transmitted diseases as well as unwanted pregnancy,and a spermicide should be used for added protection.Just being on the pill alone is not good enough.You said that you are only 16,you have your whole life ahead of you,there is plenty of time to think about having a family later.Epicsexy is right it probably is too early to know if you are pregnant or not,and if you haven't stopped taking your pills you should be ok.Think of this as a learning curve and make sure that you don't make the same mistake again in future.

[dancingdoc2]

Sora, have you browsed the Index and read any of the articles in it?

Here are two that should be of interest to you:

Am I Ready For Sex?

Birth Control Failure Rates

I recommend that you and your boyfriend read every article in the Index, either together of separately, discuss each and what you have learned, then add the information to what each of you already knows. KNOWLEDGE IS EMPOWERING. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page you will find even more information.