question for my girlfriend

[sprtskhne33]

well, this is really for both of us. We'd like to know since we never learned this in sexed in h.s., how long does it take till my girlfriend to become or even have signs of being pregnant? Does she eat more or less and the such? We've had oral sex and stuff and I read on this site as well as other family members tell me as if she swallowed some sperm, she might have a chance of becoming pregnant, and both of us really don't need that right now with her being 17, and I'm 19. So I guess you can say this is "rape" but she don't mind it, she agreed, and if she stays stop or I say stop, we both stop. The only problem is that neither one of our parents know this is going on and we want to keep it that way. So is this really considered rape or to a point or none at all? I really don't want anything happen, especially her becoming pregnant for that apparent reason. If I can get an answer for us, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks a bunch in advance.

[Ell]

Did you seriously just ask if a girl could get pregnant by swallowing semen??? No you can not get pregnant from swallowing semen, I think your family members are just trying to scare you. The only way you can get pregnant is for semen or pre cum to come in contact with the vagina. How could they not have told you that in sex ed???

Before you do anything else you both need to get some information about sex... especially safe sex practices!!!

[LiL_TrUbLe]

Use condoms or birth control

[Buck Naked]

Laws vary. In Canada the age of consent is 14 if I'm not mistaken. There more to it then just an age, but you get the picture. I know in the US your laws vary from state to state. It's information you should easily be able to find somewhere on the internet. I can't see a 19 year old having relations with a 17 year old being against the law, but you never know.

[Buck Naked]

After a quick search this is what I found about your state:

§ 3122.1. Statutory sexual assault.
Except as provided in section 3121 (relating to rape), a person commits a felony of the second degree when that person engages in sexual intercourse with a complainant under the age of 16 years and that person is four or more years older than the complainant and the complainant and the person are not married to each other.



Do some more research yourself, about this and birth control/safe sex techniques. It's clear you are under-educated on these topics and I suggest you learn all you can to keep yourself and your girlfriend safe.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by LiL_TrUbLe

Use condoms or birth control

This is a good recommendation; however, a much better and responsible suggestion is the one you will find posted a lot throughout this site:

* If the male partner does not want to be an unwed father and is not prepared to raise and financially care for a child--and to have the future course of his life forever changed, he should wear a condom.

* If the female partner does not want to be an unwed mother and is not prepared to raise and financially care for a child--and, to have the future course of her life forever changed, she should use some form of highly reliable form of birth control.

* For a variety of reasons, a teenage girl is more likely to become pregnant than at any other time in her life, a third or backup method of contraception is also recommended. This is usually a spermicide.

At the very minimum, use a condom and a spermicide. "Do not fool with Mother Nature" or try to out wit her by taking chances. **

As for signs of pregnancy, please do a search of the Internet. There are great search engines available; among them are Google and Ask. Learn to use them. Just type in "signs of pregnancy" and read several of the articles that pop up.

The same goes for learning about the age of consent.

** Consider that the two of you are playing a game of Russian Roulette only instead of having a six-shooter with one "bullet" in the cylinder, you have a fully loaded cannon in your hand. A penis need not be inside a vagina for a woman to become pregnant! Any time it is uncovered and pointed in the general direction of her vulva, there is going to be a chance. Why? Because when semen or precum comes in contact with her vaginal mucus and/or dribbles into the vaginal opening, there is every likelihood that sperm will swim inside and continue on swimming until one or more reach an egg. From this point, it only takes one lucky swimmer to penetrate one egg.

Here is a quote from Brandye, our resident M.D. when a home pregnancy test is indicated: "At this point, purchase two home pregnancy kits (of different brands) and test at least twelve hours apart. That should give her a clear answer."

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[sprtskhne33]

I thank you all for your help. I showed this to her the other day and talked it over with her. We're going to hold off til at least I have a good job and she's done with school. She has one more year to go and I think we can hold off. Plus with her being in school and I'm almost done then getting a job, we might not even last (I'd hate to say this though). Neither one of us want to risk it this point in BOTH our lives and relationship. I do thank you all though.

[sprtskhne33]

Well, we were talking the other day and we got into a delema. She went to the doctor the other day and her doctor won't put her on birth control pills for some odd reason, she did not state why to me, but I want to know why? What are your takes on this?

[Ell]

Health risks maybe???

[CleverName]

Maybe she was really too embarassed to ask and just said she did?