So... Pretty sure I'm pregnant.

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

i say your parents are worried about you for your health and its a big step from seeing someone to having kids, all you can do is be positive and get help / support as much as you can.
Like anything you jump over the learning stages which build up to the stages of doing what you want to do in life, eg kids, running a workplace being a manager or something, alot of things take time
just hope everything works out for you and the right people in your life come around when you need them

[llblovesejw]

Update.
- Went to doctor, everything's a-okay, ultrasound scheduled next month.
- Still avidly arguing with my parents about adoption. =(
- I've applied to four separate places for jobs just in the past two days. Sooner or later, someone's got to want to hire me right....?

[raez]

not to rain on your parade..but I'm guessing you are going to need to apply to more than 4 places. For one thing, in the current economy there has been a shift in what kind of people are seeking which jobs. A lot of adults that have been laid off or having trouble finding a job are taking a larger proportion of jobs that normally are taken up by young people, or those without higher education. Also you've got the fact that you're pregnant working against you (though I do not know if you are making potential employers aware of this or not) Employers are going to be less inclined to hire someone that they think will be unable to work in a few months or will be asking for maternity leave in less than a year. If I were you I'd be putting in way more applications...you should pretty much be treating finding a job AS YOUR JOB until you get something. Also, increasing your likelihood of getting more than one place interested in hiring you is always good as far as giving yourself some options to choose from. Good luck with it though, I hope you are able to find something good fairly quickly.

Remember, you're parents have good advice and wisdom to give you, but in the end you need to do what is best for the baby and you, its ok to stick to your guns once youve made the decision that you feel is best. They are probably very concerned about you keeping the baby because they know that they will end up sharing some of the responsibility, which isn't necessarily fair as has already been discussed. If this is something that you really want you've got to be prepared for it in terms of them not helping you at all...you can't figure them into any part of your plans for raising the baby. They are grandparents and nothing more, not a free babysitter, not YOUR caretakers while you take care of the baby, not a supplement to your income, etc. I am sure they are also worried about you having to grow up faster than they would like, going from being a teenager straight to a mother forces you to skip a huge formative part of your life, I'm sure they would prefer you to have your freedom as a young adult rather than suddenly having to take on the responsibilities of raising a child. Their arguements are well founded..but in the end the decision is yours and at some point both sides will have to make peace with it. Just don't get too upset if for now they aren't very supportive of you not keeping it..once the baby is here they will love it just the same. Glad you are healthy and the pregnancy is going along fine! good luck with everything

[sweetnothings]

As far as jobs go, I have a full time job and bachelor's degree but was applying for part time jobs for extra money since I don't make very much. I have applied to at least 10 places and haven't heard back from anyone. I have experience with cash registers and as a waitress and nothing! You might get lucky in retail if they are looking for holiday help. Just an FYI you probably need to get more applications out there!

[sera300]

L,

Since you are in college, have you thought about seeking employment there? All you need is an entry level position and then demonstrate your ability to work your way up.

I understand your parents harping on you but think of it this way, it's good "training" for your future--demands, testing, & training to adapt to a newborn, to infant, to toddler...and then the wonderful years of teens!

[raez]

Yeah, along the lines of Sera's suggestion- I know at least some colleges (maybe more, I'm not sure if all do) offer a work-study program where they hire students into campus offices and such as reception workers or office aids. I worked in the gym at my college through work-study, and used the money to buy my first car. Its part of the financial aid package, so its a guaranteed job if you are eligible for it. I think the hours are limited though, however it is set up to be flexible with class hours, and a lot of times the work allows enough down time that you can usually multitask and be working on homework while sitting around waiting to answer phones or whatever. Plus since its on campus it doesn't require any extra travel time if you schedule it right before or after you are there for classes. It probably wouldn't be enough to support you entirely, but with another part-time job it could work out pretty well for you. Worth looking into.

[llblovesejw]

-I can't get a job right now. That's not me saying "oh, i'm just too tired" or "there's nowhere to get a job". I mean, I am at school for 11 hours a day. The sememster is a bit of a killer, but everything is a useful necessary class so I'm getting through it.

-Another peice of bad news, my stepdad is losing his job. Which means my insurance goes. We are hoping that he finds another job because my mom only makes 20k a year...

-The doctor says everything is going alrite. I've actually lost weight because I've cut out pop completely because I was worried about caffeine. I used to have prehypertension, but now i'm all normal. I sleep on my left side cuz that's the best side for circulation. Like, I'm doing everything by the book.

But yeah, I haven't been on the site in awhile. I don't know if anyone really cares about my current welfare (i'm just some interweb chick), but in case you did there ya go. =)

[odis85]

i am looking into getting a job where i simply keep an eye on the computer lab. (or another type of lab) basically i just open the door and make sure no one tries to walk off with anything while the students can come in and do whatever they need to do. i can do homework during the time or just sit there and surf the internet but thats entirely up to me. i hope your school has something of the similar.

[llblovesejw]

I would like to work at the campus library (I absolutely love books), but I'm not sure how to go about doing that. I'd like to explore that if I could. I do manage to get cash for myself here and there, babysitting and cleaning people's houses. I made 100 bucks in one week before. It's useful that other people are lazy and I can do their oddjobs for minor cash.