So... Pretty sure I'm pregnant.

[smallestoftheclan]

You do need to tell them. If the pregnancy was confirmed today at your dr appt, then use that. Tell one or the other if you can't do both at the same time. The sooner you do it the sooner you will have that off your conscience and maybe help get rid of that headache and morning sickness (the stress of it all may be an added cause).
And if you are not pregnant, this turns out to only be a scare, what are your
plans then. How do you avoid this from happening again?

[llblovesejw]

I am pregnant.
And the doctor helped me tell my mom.
They want me to give it up for adoption or even let my Aunt Tina adopt it.
But I really really don't want that at all, and I am crying profusely at this point and I don't want to give it up..........

[sera300]

Originally Posted by llblovesejw

I am pregnant.
And the doctor helped me tell my mom.
They want me to give it up for adoption or even let my Aunt Tina adopt it.
But I really really don't want that at all, and I am crying profusely at this point and I don't want to give it up..........

Stop crying since that's not good for you or your baby. Realize if you do choose adoption; family members do make it very difficult. Why? You are always the "Mom" unknown to the child & in time the child will find out. How do you handle this when the child is 18 and needs a birth certificate copy of his/her own? How far along are you?

How is your Mom & Dad taking this news? This is one reason I said to have a plan. However, realize it will be a difficult life as well for you raising a baby. Always ask one question when facing such "What is in the best interest of my baby?"

Keep your chin up!

[sera300]

And L;

What does your boyfriend say about this? Think through the following; if you end up alone, how do you plan to provide for a baby, yourself, and your life? Now and for the next say 20-30 years?

Where does he fit in this whole picture over the long haul? How is your relationship with him? How would it be for him, how would he be as a Dad, as well for the next 20-30 years, if you remain a family?

[llblovesejw]

He said, "If you carry the baby to term, we are damn sure keeping it."

But the other point about the best interest of the child and of Billy and I as parents are what my parents are trying to convince me of. They are taking it relatively well. My mom's not freaking out as much as I thought she would.

And I don't know a lot of things right now, but I do know it will make life hard - then again, people have led worse lives. And I know the baby will have two loving parents even without giving the child up for adoption.

[sera300]

L;

Can you both live your lives together and be happy as a family? Meaning you and Billy?

I did not believe your parents would be as reactive as you thought. Remember they do want the best for you.

Keep in mind; giving a child to a family member to raise as their own will always come back to you and the child. Meanwhile, you will want to intervene if something is wrong yet would not have that option if you give the child up.

Yes, people have successfully done this as couples. Read Docs post of "residing together" [I think we are ready to live together!! and think through what he wrote. You have time. However, you need to stay calm...much upset is not healthy for your baby.

Also realize Billy does have some say as to where the baby goes if you do choose to put him/her up for adoption.

[llblovesejw]

Yes. I know we can be happy. And I think it would be so beneficial for my baby to grow up with such a strong core of "aunts and uncles" (my friends who are already thinking of lessons to help teach the kid. which is good except one of them wants to convince my kid that there are dragons at the edge of the world. XP) and grandparents and greatgrandparents who will love and support us too.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by llblovesejw

Yes. I know we can be happy. And I think it would be so beneficial for my baby to grow up with such a strong core of "aunts and uncles" (my friends who are already thinking of lessons to help teach the kid. which is good except one of them wants to convince my kid that there are dragons at the edge of the world. XP) and grandparents and greatgrandparents who will love and support us too.

Elope....why? Birth-rights for your baby being born to you as a married couple. You have time, so think through all logically.

[llblovesejw]

If not eloping, I am at least planning on moving out before the baby's born...

The worst part about this whole thing is that I am not a decision-maker. I fall apart when it comes to making drastic decisions. And that's kind of what the rest of my life calls for right now. =\

[sera300]

Originally Posted by llblovesejw

If not eloping, I am at least planning on moving out before the baby's born...

The worst part about this whole thing is that I am not a decision-maker. I fall apart when it comes to making drastic decisions. And that's kind of what the rest of my life calls for right now. =\

Time to be become a decision maker since you are now "not significant"; the baby's welfare is primary.

Recall 'The best interest of a child imperative'--not you.