the risks and how i need help

[silver_jk_alakalec]

i need some help my girlfriend keeps on asking me to cum in her but i dont want to be a dad. so i just need to know what should i do i want to make her happy she isnt pushing it really hard but askes everyso offten. so to make her happy id like to so can anyone tell me what would be the best to keep my chances down she is on the pill if there is anything else i can give to help id really like to know.

[goof'schik]

As many after will post it is better to have two methods of contraception. You could wear a condom and/or you can use a spermicide. And remember that any sperm near the opening of a woman can find it's way to an egg, you don't have to be inside her when you cum to get her pregnant.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by silver_jk_alakalec

i need some help my girlfriend keeps on asking me to cum in her but i dont want to be a dad.

I am pleased to learn that you are concerned and are seeking answers beforehand instead of after the fact as so many do. In order to minimize the possibility both of you need to look out for #1--each of you.

* It is not sufficient that she is on the pill, she must take it religiously and that means taking it at the same time each day and not missing a day.

* You have to wear a condom. In addition, you should place some spermicide in the tip/reservoir of the condom.

* She should also include a spermicide in the vagina making this a triple-decker layer of protection.


so i just need to know what should i do i want to make her happy she isnt pushing it really hard but askes everyso offten.

You can stick to your guns and not give in if this is an important enough worry or concern. As was mentioned, above, a penis need not be in the vagina in order to become pregnant. Any time semen is in the general vicinity of the vaginal opening there is a chance. In a post last night I stated that any time you are playing with a penis a couple is in fact playing a version of "Russian Roulette" only instead of a six shooter with one bullet in the cylinder, you have a fully loaded cannon. If it is pointed anywhere near the Vulva, there is a chance for pregnancy whether it fires or just gets some precum on the skin.

so to make her happy id like to so can anyone tell me what would be the best to keep my chances down she is on the pill if there is anything else i can give to help id really like to know.

Asked and answered. Talk to each other about your concerns and her desires. My guess is that what she really wants is deeper intimacy and more of a connection between you. You can have more of this without having intercourse by further developing your emotional bond. Intercourse has more to do with a melding of the psyches than physical pleasure. A woman's vagina is the gateway to her soul. Make certain that the two of you are ready for this level of intimacy. If all either or both of you want is to feel good then you can achieve this to a greater extent from a great h/j or b/j.

[silver_jk_alakalec]

now this is good and all except she wants cum in her pussy so that rules out a condom and shes alergic to most spermasides

[Brandye]

She either gets on homrones, has an iud inserted or you get another girlfriend. She is being unreasonable and just plain stupid. No woman should take these risks for fun.

And no woman I have ever met is allergic to all of the three common spermicides on the market. Nonoxynol-9 is the most common, by far, and also the one to which more women are allergic.

I really feel that no matter what we tell you, you will have a comeback making advice imposssible.

[CLVR-HNDS_GUY]

its more messy with no condom on, you virtually need a towel or something underneath the both of you, its more hassel then its worth, the sperm comes out and the fact she may get pregnant, not good at a young age