Risks of pregnancy

[new_here]

Hi,

This is my first post on this forum after reading others comments in various sections for a few months now. I've found it a great way to become informed about sex.

I'm worried that I may be pregnant, I guess I won't know until my period arrives (or doesn't) but I thought I'd ask for some advice anyway. It's not something I want to happen and I'm feeling quite paranoid about it.

Here's the situation: My boyfriend and I are not trying to have a baby, we simply enjoy sex and like to have a lot of it. Last week, he came inside me for the first time with no protection. I'm not on the pill, so I took the morning after pill 12 hours after intercourse.

Then, last night whilst we were having rigorous sex the condom broke while he was coming inside me. I was told that it's only advisable to take the morning after pill once during every cycle and that taking it twice can be harmful. So, I haven't taken the morning after pill a second time.

In trying to determine whether my worries of being pregnant are groundless or not, I've been reading about how in a woman's cycle there are 'fertile days' and 'infertile days'

How much relevance should I place on these days if I tried to work them out? What are the chances of me being pregnant if it happened on a fertile day? What if I went to the bathroom straight afterward and most of the cum seeped out of me? Should I be worried?

I know we should have been more careful, I'm aware of that now and plan to be more prepared next time. If anyone has any helpful and supportive advice I'd really appreciate it, thanks.

[sera300]

You can not use cycle determination to find out if you are pregnant since you used plan B. You need to see a doc and think through what you want to do. Attempting to figure ovulate times is variable since often one does not follow a usual cycle. It's poor methods for BC & does not prevent the spread of STD's.

[new_here]

Thank-you for your advice and quick response. Do you think I should I wait until my period is overdue before I see a doc?

[Brandye]

Forget the fertile and infertile days. Unless you are perfectly regular in your period, you are not perfectly regular ovulating. Taking Plan B messed up your hormone levels for the remainder of this cycle. Your next period is unpredictable because of the Plan B. Some women skip a period; some have an early period. Get two home pregnancy tests (different brands) and , following the directions, take them at least twelve hours apart.

You are correct that two regimens of Plan B are not advised in one cycle.

You should get an appointment with your gyn (assuming it will take some time to get the appointment) and discuss the situation with her. Whist there, get a prescription for some hormonal form of birth control (I recommend the ring). Then, you and your friend should have a plan for what you will do in the future.

You have leaarned a lesson: Condoms should always be backed up with vaginal spermicide.

[dancingdoc2]

> I'm worried that I may be pregnant... but I thought I'd ask for some advice anyway. It's not something I want to happen and I'm feeling quite paranoid about it.

> Here's the situation: My boyfriend and I are not trying to have a baby, we simply enjoy sex and like to have a lot of it. Last week, he came inside me for the first time with no protection. I'm not on the pill

Originally Posted by Brandye

get a prescription for some hormonal form of birth control (I recommend the ring). Then, you and your friend should have a plan for what you will do in the future.

Stated another way: If you do not want to be(come) an unwed mother and to have the future course of your life changed forever, then you must take responsibility for protecting Number One--you.

If the fellow does not want to be an unwed father and to have the future course of his life forever changed then he must take responsibility for protecting Number One--himself.

Making love or having sex should be done in partnership; although, having said that, this is the one time when each party should have a selfish streak in order to minimize the dangers (pregnancy, STDs, etc.)

Your post upsets my sensibilities! Why, if you do now want to become pregnant and are now experiencing all this angst, why in the world would you be having unprotected sex and then asking US! if you could be pregnant? Before you engage in adult activities for which you must also take on adult responsibility, would you not learn as much about the workings of your body and his, first? This site is a fantastic resource, yet for the most part, its greatest benefit is up front before the f/act.

The younger a girl is the more unpredictable her chances for becoming pregnant. That you do not seem to know this or hold this belief to be self evident tells me you are not mature enough to have intercourse.

> What if I went to the bathroom straight afterward and most of the cum seeped out of me? Should I be worried?

ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY, INDUBITABLY, YES Anytime P meets up with V and there is a mixing of fluids there is a possibility of pregnancy. It only takes one out of a million sperm cells and not all the semen will leak out. Some is absorbed, some continue the journey.

Right now you have or will be playing a version of Russian Roulette. Please consider the penis to be a fully loaded cannon instead of a six-shooter with only one bullet in the chamber. Anytime it is pointed in your direction and anytime its "ammo" hits on or around the vagina, there is every likelihood of it meeting up and joining with an egg.

You have asked very good questions. My only complaint is that with an activity so important to the human condition why didn't you bother to learn as much as you could before engaging in risky behavior?

> know we should have been more careful, I'm aware of that now and plan to be more prepared next time.

OK, so you did not know this before having sex, although, I'm presuming you did know that intercourse sometimes leads to one or more babies--yes? Please, please, avail yourself the the tremendous amount of reading material available on this site before having sex again.

[sera300]

You must get on a form of Birth Control & he MUST wear a condom since you are placing both of you at serious risks. As stated get a Gyn appointment & a few home preg. tests ASAP. SAFE SEX is a must...