Pregnant - Nesting Behavior?

[bruins76]

Wow... uhm...why would you ever pay attention to your mother's physical & emotional needs when she was pregnant? Men don't do that for their SO's let alone their mothers.

Any who... everything you just described is 100% accurate. I am pregnant (5 months at that) & this is my 3rd pregnancy.

Last night I was freezing & made DH turn off the a/c's yet it's 89 & ridiculously humid outside.

I too wake early & go to bed early...exhaustion is the norm. We either have a ton of energy or none at all.

Vomitting...it come's & goes, no predictions. One minute I am eating a ton of food, next I can't even have it near me w/ out throwing up.

Drinking caffeine, a "no, no"...same as bottom crawlers (shrimp, scallops) & salmon & tuna (high mercury fish). However, a little here & there isn't bad either.

Having a high sex drive is b/c her vessels in her vagina are stronger & are flowing well. So when she has an orgasm, its the BEST orgasm ever. Nothing can compare to a pregnant orgasm. Especially when you're pregnant w/ a boy.

Smells....are strong. Anything too strong, watch out. Like perfumes, colognes, paints, foods, trash, anything that you can smell a little, she can smell like a hound dog.

Cravings, if she wants something, get it! Period.

Peeing a lot...whoa.... I pee every hour to 2 hours tops. At night I can barely sleep cause of my peeing. Hence why I am on overdrive to catch up on sleep when I can.

This is all normal. However, there are "some" (and very few) ladies who never experience any of these symptoms. Which is not the norm at all.

With that said... if your wife says that she's hungry, cold, hot, tired, thirsty, cranky/moody, feet are tender, breasts are in pain, what ever she says...it's 100% accurate & don't argue w/ her or give her grief about it. Her body is no longer hers, it's the babys.

Oh...BTW...almost forgot. Gas, woman experience a lot of this. Burping, farting...we can't help it as we could before pregnancy, get used it.

I'd recommend the following short readings for you, their funny yet true.

"Belly Laughs" Jenny McCarthy or "My Boy's Can Swim"... Either one is cute & puts things into perspective.

Take care,
~C

[HardNgood]

Sorry but is sounds like your DH has NO BACKBONE! and is whipped!...why in the world would he TURN OFF the air conditioning if you are too cold?? How about dressing up, wrapping a blanket around yourself, instead of "punishing" the others??...

[Engage!]

I don't mind turning off the AC for my wife, but she doesn't usually ask me to do that. I keep it set high anyhow to save money, and I'm so used to not having AC at all that it doesn't bother me. Even so, sometimes she feels so cold that it's time for the old wool army blanket.

I'm also used to being pretty attentive to my wife anyhow, since she's emotional and sometimes demanding. Seafood (never a part of our diet anyway) is officially on the banned list, and I've quit drinking coffee and there's nothing caffeinated in the apartment. If she can't eat it, I won't have it around.

I haven't noticed her sense of smell becoming more acute yet, but we'll see. She can't hardly smell, and neither can I, so maybe it will bring her sense of smell up to a normal level.

[CrazyJenny]

Sounds like you've got it all under control at the moment. Just remember - you're only a little ways into the pregnancy, so whatever you're experiencing now will be intensified later on.

[bruins76]

HardNgood... aren't you mature w/ some great advice? ooooohhh.... I think you added something professional & astonishing here... Perhaps your just jealous that you don't have someone in your life who cares about YOUR needs?

Clearly, you have some issues... why don't you get a clue instead of attacking others that didn't ask for an opinion? I think you have underlying problems b/c you wouldn't attack others that aren't asking for your opinion to begin w/ and respond to the question in hand.

HardNgood... You had nothing to add to this dear man's concerns about his wife's pregnancy. But hey, if you feel better about yourself by taking low blows to my personal life (that I don't need advice on) then go ahead...make a jerk out of yourself. Good luck to you, you're going to need it.

[bruins76]

Originally Posted by Engage!

I don't mind turning off the AC for my wife, but she doesn't usually ask me to do that. I keep it set high anyhow to save money, and I'm so used to not having AC at all that it doesn't bother me. Even so, sometimes she feels so cold that it's time for the old wool army blanket.

I'm also used to being pretty attentive to my wife anyhow, since she's emotional and sometimes demanding. Seafood (never a part of our diet anyway) is officially on the banned list, and I've quit drinking coffee and there's nothing caffeinated in the apartment. If she can't eat it, I won't have it around.

I haven't noticed her sense of smell becoming more acute yet, but we'll see. She can't hardly smell, and neither can I, so maybe it will bring her sense of smell up to a normal level.

You sound like a great DH who care's a lot about your wife's needs. That's great. But as the other poster mentioned, she's only in the begining stages so it may or may not get worst. Usually the 2nd trimester is better & then the last 2 months or so is horrible b/c you can't sleep anymore, your uncomfortable & your miserable. Being emotional is a big part of it. And after she has the baby, it will get worst before it gets better, she'll be back to herself (pending on no baby blues/post-partum depression), in a few months. That's not the physical though, that can take a year or so.

Pregnancy take's a toll on a gal.

[Engage!]

I don't want to start a conflict here, so, I politely ask that you two (bruins76 and HardNGood) not go at each other's throats. I can agree with part of what both of you say, and I feel that in everything no matter how I feel about the comment, there is a grain of truth to be learned. I thank you all for your advice.

Bruins76 - I can only try to see to my wife's needs, but sometimes it's a bit beyond me. I can comfort her when she cries, but it's not in my power to figure out how to prevent it from happening in the first place.

Just an update here - the hot-cold thing has been intensifying. I wouldn't say that it's driving me nuts, but it could be better. I've figured out that the best thing for her to do is take a cold shower and then stand in front of a fan. Then she gets too cold and I can wrap her up, and as she warms up take off the layers one by one until she's naked, and then when we have to we repeat the process. It seems to work, at least until the fluctuations become more erratic.

As for her nesting instincts, she's still moving furniture. She also went out and bought a bunch of blankets and bedding that we don't need, and she baked enough bread this last weekend that we have a kitchen full of loaves and we're giving alot away to the neighbors. Her two main interests are food and sleep, alongside progressing at her job and the occasional round of sex.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, your body is the baby's now but you still have a brain. When I was pregnant, I was also in the military on active duty so giving way to emotions and so forth was not an option; though I will here state for the record that putting pregnant women in battledress uniforms is stupid.

A husband endures because this is the process by which children, his legacy, are born. A husband endures because he loves this woman and is partly responsible for her present discomfort (along with the lady herself). A husband endures because this is the most visible sign to the world that yes, he is, in fact, a man, and can get his primary mission in life accomplished.

Now it is onto the hardest part of the job - being a father.

[HardNgood]

Originally Posted by bruins76

HardNgood... aren't you mature w/ some great advice? ooooohhh.... I think you added something professional & astonishing here... Perhaps your just jealous that you don't have someone in your life who cares about YOUR needs?

Clearly, you have some issues... why don't you get a clue instead of attacking others that didn't ask for an opinion? I think you have underlying problems b/c you wouldn't attack others that aren't asking for your opinion to begin w/ and respond to the question in hand.

HardNgood... You had nothing to add to this dear man's concerns about his wife's pregnancy. But hey, if you feel better about yourself by taking low blows to my personal life (that I don't need advice on) then go ahead...make a jerk out of yourself. Good luck to you, you're going to need it.

Get a blanket lady...that will adjust your temperature..I didn't attack you..While you are under your blanket, make sure you check all the cellphone activity and text activity, I totally remember all the previous posts and I will drag them out if you want!.. I just can't figure out why are you trying to torture yourself?? You think I have underlying problems?? Look into your own mirror before trying to pass judgement on someone else..I'm quite comfortable with my situation...as a matter too comfortable for a lot of people..Something YOU WILL NEVER be able to experience! I've got awesome KHARMA...life is wonderful!!...I feel sorry for you in actuallity!

[Engage!]

Um..... how badly does this battle need to be fought?