Hey people, I not long just signed upto this sight recently. anyway, I'v got a little bit of a problem..or should i say a kind of dilemma. I'm just turning seventeen and I'm seeing this girl who is also just turning seventeen and she has had sex before with this previous boyfriend. He was a older her than her and stuff. But now, we are having a pretty good relationship and we've started to mention taking things further, ie. having sex. But I have this thought that I'm going to be compared to this other guy in everyway because he was older, and also I am a virgin. I am completely ready, but theres the thought of comparrison and stuff..like am I going to be an utter letdown for her? Will I be as good as the other guy? Will it be any good for her at all or a complete boring time? So I know it might be like silly asking for advice on sex when I've never had it before, but is there anyone that can help me at all? I'd appreciate it sooo much, just anything at all.
Thanks
JimmieMac
Wed, 08/11/2004 - 11:36
#1
Complete Newbie
If you poke around the board a bit, you'll find that similar situations have arisen before... I'm sure that isn't particularly consoling, but you may want to poke around a bit and find some of those discussions.
I think it's important to realize that the quality of the relationship dramatically affects the quality of sex. In other words, if your relationship is better than her previous, that's a tremendous basis for great sex.
There's also something exciting about discovery, so new and inexperienced is not a bad thing.
In short, don't let your apprehension about your performance overwhelm the relationship... enjoy each other.