Look, stop thinking in terms of "you and yours" - think in terms of ALL humans. Smacking someone in the mouth with a slipper might not seem all that bad to some but to others it is a deadly insult. Just because YOU personally cannot understand it, doesn't mean everyone else sees it the same way.

Considering the time and money women spend on their faces and the value men put upon beauty - ejaculating sperm all over her make-up can easily be considered a 'devaluation' only somewhat better than urinating on her face since men make so many sperm they can afford to throw them away. Hence the act is considered one of dominance especially if she's on her knees before him and passively 'receiving'.

I'll give you a short tip to make it easier: if EEK would not permit him to do this to her - it MUST be an act of dominance.

Your is quite correct. How can a man finishing by his own hand be satisfied other than by some feeling of dominance?

I would never accept it. Some do, it's just not my thing. It's not that I consider it degrading per se, it's just that I don't want it in my face, TYVM. I'm extremely protective of my eyes and I hear it burns them like a mother.

If I express that to you, and you do it anyway just because, now THAT I consider degrading. And rude and BS.

Well, think about it, Bear, how would you feel if some guy ejaculated on your face?

There. You have your answer.

I don't mind when my girlfriend cums on my face, but she's not to thrilled to have my cum on hers ... to each their own

Wait brandye, you feel its degrading because a man using his hand to finish is a sign of "dominance". Or do you mean the act of ejaculating on a womans face is degrading because THAT is a symbol of dominance?

Ok! BigBear try to ask her another place to cum on her and finishing it off with your hand is fine. Maybe you should switch of one night to let her finish you off the next you do it. I agree with the dominance thing but thats just me when a guy cums on my face thats a compliment saying hes very satisfied and you made it get there...

Degrading is not as much defined by the act itself, as it is defined mostly by the intention of the giver and how the receiver perceives the intention. So any act can be done lovingly. And for some; this may very well be a satisfying way to finish their lovemaking.

Personally; I don't see the fun of seeing a fist coming at me. Wouldn't be the first girl to get a black eye by some jerk. Joke intended ;) And I'm certainly not looking forward to getting semen in my eyes and start crying miserably. Lovely ending...

His semen can end up on any part of my body and I wouldn't be angry with him. Things just happen unintentionally sometimes. I know he would never do anything to hurt or degrade me and certainly never purposefully do something I asked him not to. I also admit that I like receiving his semen inside me, in my mouth or on my body (in that order of preference :rolleyes:). A love-making-session even feels unfinished when he hasn't given it to me. But wherever he cums, I won't wait passively or at a distance for him to "shoot" it on me. I am part of the action in one way or another and the moment remains intimately connected. For instance; he finishes himself by hand with me on top of him and while we kiss; it ends up on my stomach. Apart from the previously stated objections, I don't see how shooting it on my face could be anything but distant and passive and thus no fun for me.

I've never really understood the "point" to coming on someone, at least as an express purpose to do so. I mean, if it happens it happens, or if the partner wants to watch it happen or whatnot ok whatever. But I'm meaning the determined action of coming on a person, with the point being to see it draped on the person, seems so artificial. I'd much rather it be a good laugh of "heh look where that ended up!" than some purposeful decoration.

I understand why porn does it. It's the "money shot". But at home this seems like it'd be a hassle. I think of it like if I were to just come on the bedside lamp shade. Well damn, now I have to clean that off.

Everyone is different in what they like and I'm always respectful of my partners limits. I've dated girls who didn't like any ejaculate to touch their body while others who get even more aroused by having a guy cum on them. If I don't know what they like I just ask.

Let us say you like art. And you receive a present. A marvel of a classic painting. A famous painter, you respect and are in love with this work. Of course because you like art: you are proud having that specific painting; you brag a little around about having it.
And when you come home you do not take it out from it’s hanging place from the wall, you do not put it as low as possible, and then you do not give it a good “pizz” ... as an expression of admiration, love etc.

If doing similar to one’s gf/wife, is it not maybe because one’s need to humiliate in some way or another, the one he thinks of as “the weaker“ one, in order to satisfy it’s own “hurt” pride; just because is not “man” enough when one should be?