Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums, James. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to information that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page, you will find even more information. I recommend that the two of you read each of the articles, together or separately, then discuss what you have learned and then add the information to what each of you already knows. Knowledge is empowering.

Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. That said, each of us, male and female, is responsible for our own orgasms, we do not give them away. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them.

The G-spot is really an ancillary sensitive spot, not a primary trigger. Do the two of you know where it is located? The G-spot is located about 2" inside the vagina along the anterior {front) wall. It is most sensitive and reactive the more turned on a woman has become. You can finger her early on if desired, however do not try to trigger an orgasm or increase her level of arousal until she is already nearing the peak of her arousal. I recommend waiting for her to reach this point along her arousal curve before searching for it and manipulating it.

> I'd really like for her to be able to have a g-spot orgasm. I'm open to suggestions.

This may or may not happen. Because she is responsible for her own orgasms, all you can do is to work with her. If stimulating the G- results in an orgasm, it will be thru her efforts, not necessarily yours, except for how you stimulate her, when, and in response to what she tells you via feedback what she needs now/next.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Since doc has already welcomed you to the bored I will keep my answer simple.

Under the pleasing her sub forum you will notice several wonderful articles (aka stickies) that speak of the gspot and orgasms.

These articles are very informative and tend to clear up any and all questions.

It is likely that no more than ten percent of all women have experienced successful G-Spot stimulation. There is, of course, still doubt that the G-Spot even exists and many who believe that the stimulation actually occurs on the clitoris although the pressure is being applied inside the vagina.

A good (possible) explanation is that the periurethral glands (Skene's Glands) are being stimulated similarly to prostate massage in a man. The gland are roughly analogous in the two genders.

I think allot of the G-spot phenomina is mythical at least for a segment of the female population. I know it's not for the woman who have found their G-Spot and report that it's the greatest feeling in the world, but for the rest of us, it's allot of hoopla and places unnecesary pressure to acheive. I don't know if I don't have one or if I don't find stimulation to that area pleasurable. Either way, the persuit of my G-Spot has been allot like searching for the lost city of Atlantis! I'm at the point now that I don't really care if it's there or not. If a G-Spot orgasm occures, that would be fantastic and I would try my best to repeat it but I'm not going to go out of my mind or think my partner is a total failure if it doesn't happen. My clitoral orgasms are plenty powerfull and satisfying on their own!

Try this as it worked for us.

Immediately after a clit orgasm take your middle finger and insert into the top of the vagina and curl it somewhat around her pubic bone, almost like you were reaching toward her naval (continue the a gentle clit massage with the other hand or have her do it. Better yet use your tongue gently on the clit). Massage the area behind the pubic bone and hopefully you will eventually feel a bump or a raised area surrounded by smooth flesh. If so concentrate in that area with a finger massage, not a thrusting of the finger. Use small gentle circles.

Make sure that she is aware that a sensation to urinate is a good thing and means you are getting close to your goal. If that does happen it is important she does not hold back. The sensation will get stronger and when/if she reaches orgasm she needs to relax as is she was trying to urinate. The orgasm will very intense for her.

We have also had good luck with g spot orgasms during sex using the bevel position.

Another thought is does she sometimes have stronger orgasms during sex than at other times? Maybe when using the doggie style? Just wondering if maybe she has had one but did not realize.

Good luck!

I did write about this didn't I? In an article entitled "The Four Hotspots", I think.

It is not mythical and the only way it could exert pressure to "achieve" is if the ego is weak in the first place or the person has hangups about sex.

Orgasms happen or not depending upon relaxation and arousal - when these two meet in harmony - just the thought of any sensation at all will cause an orgasm - so pressure to "achieve" is ridiculous. If orgasms happen - great! but if not - there's always tomorrow. No harm, no foul.

[color=green]i also believe achieving the goal is a mental one......letting go of all of those thoughts is a major factor.....that and exercising of muscles[/color]