Let me address the "often" part first. We all have a time frame after a climax in which we recoup. and regroup; this period is known as the "refractory period." For guys, it varies on the individual and hinges on age and drive, primarily. It can last from as little as ten minutes to as much as half an hour. Once this time has elapsed, he is generally good to go, again. The refractory period for women is much much less, often only a matter of moments to minutes. During this period of time, the two of you can maintain the "fire" by just making out without demands.
Your first question is interesting because it is usually the guys we hear from asking how to last longer. Here are some suggestions:
* Begin intercourse only when he is very highly aroused and on the brink of a climax, yet can still maintain control in order to move around and get into position.
* Whether you are having intercourse or just limiting your activities to a hand job or oral sex, the answer is the same. A hand job by itself will get him off in due course. Oral stimulation can as well, although, more often than not, it will raise and intensify a guy's level of arousal way beyond what it takes to trigger an orgasm, yet it won't happen because the stimulation is the wrong type and not what he has become accustomed to during masturbation. Manual stimulation works best if you learn how to mimic his movements, motions, rhythms, and pressure. (The same holds true for him with you.)
What works really well is what I refer to as the "dynamic duo", a combination of oral and manual stimulation. Combine the two as he approaches the peek of his arousal and is about ready to climax.
* Rub the Frenulum of the penis. This is the Y-shaped ridge of skin on the underside that extends from the cleft to the top of the shaft. This is the A#1 hot spot. Rubbing this when he is at the trigger point is an almost 100% guarantee that the orgasm will be triggered immediately if not sooner. One or more other hot spots can be found distributed around the Corona Rim. Ask him about these.
* Liberally lubricate the shaft and Glans. A light grazing motion as you stroke will produce a different type of stimulation, often more intense than the usual gripping action of the fist.
* Use the palm of your hand to rub the tip of the Glans. Cup your hand and rub as if polishing a door knob.
* Have him abstain for a day or two.
* Read the following article: "Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play. Both methods described in the article will accomplish two things; first, greatly intensify an orgasm; second, help to trigger an orgasm in addition to other forms of caressing going on.
Let me address the "often" part first. We all have a time frame after a climax in which we recoup. and regroup; this period is known as the "refractory period." For guys, it varies on the individual and hinges on age and drive, primarily. It can last from as little as ten minutes to as much as half an hour. Once this time has elapsed, he is generally good to go, again. The refractory period for women is much much less, often only a matter of moments to minutes. During this period of time, the two of you can maintain the "fire" by just making out without demands.
Your first question is interesting because it is usually the guys we hear from asking how to last longer. Here are some suggestions:
* Begin intercourse only when he is very highly aroused and on the brink of a climax, yet can still maintain control in order to move around and get into position.
* Whether you are having intercourse or just limiting your activities to a hand job or oral sex, the answer is the same. A hand job by itself will get him off in due course. Oral stimulation can as well, although, more often than not, it will raise and intensify a guy's level of arousal way beyond what it takes to trigger an orgasm, yet it won't happen because the stimulation is the wrong type and not what he has become accustomed to during masturbation. Manual stimulation works best if you learn how to mimic his movements, motions, rhythms, and pressure. (The same holds true for him with you.)
What works really well is what I refer to as the "dynamic duo", a combination of oral and manual stimulation. Combine the two as he approaches the peek of his arousal and is about ready to climax.
* Rub the Frenulum of the penis. This is the Y-shaped ridge of skin on the underside that extends from the cleft to the top of the shaft. This is the A#1 hot spot. Rubbing this when he is at the trigger point is an almost 100% guarantee that the orgasm will be triggered immediately if not sooner. One or more other hot spots can be found distributed around the Corona Rim. Ask him about these.
* Liberally lubricate the shaft and Glans. A light grazing motion as you stroke will produce a different type of stimulation, often more intense than the usual gripping action of the fist.
* Use the palm of your hand to rub the tip of the Glans. Cup your hand and rub as if polishing a door knob.
* Have him abstain for a day or two.
* Read the following article:
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play. Both methods described in the article will accomplish two things; first, greatly intensify an orgasm; second, help to trigger an orgasm in addition to other forms of caressing going on.