i really doubt that the girl is going to enjoy her first time because of the pain. so i doubt she will cum

1. You are assuming that a woman ejaculates similarly to a man. Not so.
2. You are assuming there will be blodd. Fewer than half.
3. Both of you are assuming pain. For very few, there is real pain. For many, a twinge as the hymen lets go. For many a non-event.
4. You are correct that few women experience orgasm the first time. The expectation of pain and the unknown has us so uptight that few are able to relax enough to really enjoy the first time.
5. You both need some real sex ed.

A wise and caring lover will help his partner achieve an orgasm before attempting to pop her cherry.

[QUOTE=Quote (dancingdoc2 @ Jan. 05 2006,04:41)]A wise and caring lover will help his partner achieve an orgasm before attempting to pop her cherry.[/QUOTE]
just a personal thought that kind of relates to the quoted comment, i find it so much more arousing for myself to focus solely on my partner's pleasure through manual and oral stimulation before i get any action of my own.*

*that is whether it's her first time or not

In Chick Chat, there is a treatment of "Female Sexual Response." Read it and I'll answer questions.

Sorry this is a double post. I meant it for the tips thread.

[QUOTE=Quote (sketer @ Jan. 04 2006,18:37)]OK all of the girls who want to answer on this then please do becas it will be very helpful to me...When u first had sex for the very first time and the guy actually popped ur cherry did u cum and bleed to...I was asking cas I was wondering if wen u pop a cherry will there be cum from the girl mixed in with the blood...[/QUOTE]
what brandye's said is spot on. it's v unlikely for a girl to "come" on first time sex. normally first time sex for a girl is more emotional than physical in the sense that she'll be a bit nervous and not really mind-set to have mind-blowing sex...does that make sense(!?) "popping a girl's cherry" doesn't always signify blood..quite a lot of girls don't bleed. anyway yes cumming for girls is diff to guys so what you're asking about the mixing of blood and "come" isn't an issue really.

[QUOTE=Quote (Brandye @ Jan. 04 2006,21:15)]5. You both need some real sex ed.[/QUOTE]
Indeed. This is what abstinence-only education leads to. Besides what brandye said, some women break their hymen before they lose their virginity through sports or physical activity or accidents. I hope you know what a hymen is, and that, in fact, it is really nothing like a cherry. Women's "cum" is very different from guys. Besides, the blood is usually minimal if its there.

It kind of bothers me to hear guys say yeah, girls wont feel any pleasure their first time it just hurts blah blah. I hope they don't take that as meaning that they don't have to TRY and do everything to be tender and loving and give pleasure to their lover. I did orgasm my first time. However, my boyfriend and I had been together for a long time and had made eachother orgasm many times before with hand/oral sex. So I guess that leads to familiarity- he knew what I liked. Plus he's just great.

hey umm im a girl and i had sex with my bf the first time and he pop my cherry and at that time the condom broke he says he didnt come but if he did could i be u know

[QUOTE=Brandye;135416]1. You are assuming that a woman ejaculates similarly to a man. Not so.
2. You are assuming there will be blodd. Fewer than half.
3. Both of you are assuming pain. For very few, there is real pain. For many, a twinge as the hymen lets go. For many a non-event.
4. You are correct that few women experience orgasm the first time. The expectation of pain and the unknown has us so uptight that few are able to relax enough to really enjoy the first time.
5. You both need some real sex ed.[/QUOTE]

I can support the fact that women dont always bleed.

My first Long term relationship was with a virgin.

I don't know if penis size is a factor to whether or not a virgin will bleed, i do know that its a pretty long process of a women finding her comfort zone. and i do know that even though she didn't bleed she was still in pain and i have an average to slightly below average size.the more sensitive and patient you can be the better.

My ex lady took notice to my care and patience and she made it worth my while by getting me off with oral after she couldn't take anymore sex. so it was still a pleasurable experience for me.

Maybe not all women are that nice, but still you should be pretty patient and understanding no matter whats in it for you.

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[QUOTE=decayingbh;167301]hey umm im a girl and i had sex with my bf the first time and he pop my cherry and at that time the condom broke he says he didnt come but if he did could i be u know[/QUOTE]

um yes you could, cause his pre-cum was built up in the tip.

the thing about pregnancy is that its more about the timing of when you have a fertile egg ready for fertilization more so than the amount of cum is inside you. A tiny drop of cum is all it would take at the right time.

THIS IS WHY plan b (mourning after pill) is so affective and safe.

A condom broke, don't risk IT gather up 30 bucks and purchase plan b at any pharmacy.

IT IS NOT ABORTION, do your research. all it does is tell your body to not release an egg if in so it was going to be released in the 3 day period sperm survive inside of you patiently waiting to dramatically change your life. and if you are already pregnant the pill has no ill affect on the baby. its a backup plan and we all need to educate people on this. Cause the politicians and the extreme religious folk want every teenager to believe its abortion, and that is a lie, listen to a scientist!

In fact most experts would say its smart for anyone sexually active to have a plan b pill for just in case emergencies. Condoms break, people get drunk and/or stupid, and plan b is a viable option for these mishaps.