I found out that my wife had been lying to me about a lot of things in her past. She would constantly talk about other guys, and then tell me they were just friends. I finally found out they were all friends with benefits at different times. She has kept them as friends and even hung around them some while lying to me. She even had an orgy with one of them. So in payback i've set up several 3somes this weekend. I just want to know what people think of my payback. I don't think she cheated on me, but to lie to me, and to talk about these guys all the time to me. I think we will be even.
What do yo think.
Or you could what she did - go back in the past, have sex with lots of your female friends, and then omit the sex part and say you were just friends. Honestly, that makes more sense that your childish idea.
When one's solution in a relationship is childish vengeance, there is no more relationship and probably hasn't been one for a while. Enjoy the wait for std test results.
So...you don't think she cheated on you, but you think cheating on her would be equal to lying about past sexual partners? Revenge is childish, yes, but this is just....sad. Are you one of those guys who thinks it's less wrong for a man to cheat than a woman? Just curious. You come across as a misogynist to be honest.
There's this thing that adults do...it's called TALK. When you grow up, maybe someone can explain it to you.
[QUOTE=cowboy101;255268]what people think of my payback. I don't think she cheated on me, but to lie to me, and to talk about these guys all the time to me. I think we will be even.
What do yo think.[/QUOTE]
Honestly.. Childish and immature:rolleyes::rolleyes:
What she done in her past really has nothing to do with you..
If you think you should go ahead with your little payback game then
I suggest you go ahead and find a lawyer because if that is the way you are going to react then you are hardly mature enough to be in a marriage..
You do not think she cheated on you but say she was involved in an orgy. She would be better off without you and you without her. That is the only way for you two to become "even."
she had the orgy with the guy before me, but she talked about the guy all the time like he was her best friend. turns out he was just a friend with benefits.
There was a "Dennis the Menace" cartoon a week or so ago in which told a friend: "What happens at Margaret's stays at Margaret's" as he walks home with lipstick on his cheek.
Brandye has mentioned a time or two that at some point in a person's life, we can assume s/he has a past. That past should be of no concern to the present partner except for something that may be health or safety related. So, let bygones be bygones and do not dwell on her history.
Lying about elements of that history may or may not be a good thing, it depends upon what she has chosen to keep from you or lessen the impact of. What is more to the point as far as you should be concerned is whether or not she has been and is being truthful within your relationship. The "history" that the two of you are creating began when the two of you met. That should be the only relevant concern. So, wake up every morning and ask yourself: "what can I do to make her world better?" Now, go about doing it.
As for getting even and the plan you have for that--this seems to me to be a case in which your pompous and righteous ego is being bruised. Get over yourself! "Two wrongs do not make a 'right'" and your "wrong" should you decide to carry out the threesome will be a much worse offense.
Next time your girlfriend mentions a past boyfriend, affair, or an activity in which the two of them participated, simply take her hands in yours, look into her eyes, smile, and simply say: "that was then, this is now, and I would much rather you talk about something we did that pleased you instead of what happened a long time ago with someone else. Be prepared to repeat this as often as necessary; soon, she'll think first, before speaking.
Now, please go about doing what you can to rock her world, daily. Make her think about you and "us" by creating memories for her that are worth her time daydreaming about.