Me and my lover really have only gotten the chance to make love in my car and she sais that even though I haven't gotten her to orgasm she still loves it. For starters if you have any ideas for good positions for in a car. second if you have any tips for sex in an enclosed area and getting her to Orgasm. thanks. we would both appreciate it IMMENSELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mon, 03/23/2009 - 04:02
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Cars
I know they are different she just flat doesn't want me playing with her butt and respect that. there was also an incident with her step dad so we talk about and thats fine by me.
There are many ways to make love, have sex, and enjoy the different methods. One bad set of experiences does not mean that such is always going to be the case. Much depends upon having trust in our partner and discussing what we want to explore, do, and then how.
If anal stimulation is an activity that interests you, then explore, learn how, and then discuss how the two of you will proceed. At this point, it sounds like she may lack complete trust, if not in you, perhaps in what you would like to do.
Please read the article listed in the Index about anal play. The information should at least ease her angst and increase her understanding making progress in this and other activities you may have an interest in easier and more positive.
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen.
As for positions, please click on the Home page link and then go to the sexual positions area. There are many illustrations, all animated.
It is important to understand that very few positions place a woman's pieces-parts in constant close contact with a man's pubic mound sufficient to generate the required friction to build and then trigger an orgasm. What a skilled, knowledgeable, caring lover will do is to reach around and finger his partner while stroking away.
Two other important points to understand are that each person is responsible for his/her own orgasms. We do not give them away. All anybody can hope for is to help our partner achieve theirs. The second prerequisite is that before a woman can enjoy an orgasm by whatever technique/means/position, she must first learn to masturbate. This is not automatic with females of the species as it is for males.
My questions for you are: a) has she learned to masturbate, and, b) can she climax regularly and consistently? If she has and can, then she should take your fingers and move them in order for you to learn how to mimic her unique and specific movements. If she has yet to make the transition into an orgasmic being, then encourage her to learn how to masturbate. The how and the why have been discussed in the Forums, and there is an article listed in the Index.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
a. has learned
b.she can climax and I have learned to help her there with my fingers and my tongue on her clitoris.
our questions are basically what is the best way to go about finding sex positions for in a car and for now should give up on the G spot for now and if so should I be using my hand or should she or does it depend on the position.
> our questions are basically what is the best way to go about finding sex positions for in a car
Trial and error.
Have a look at the illustrated animated positions and try a couple or adapt.
Back when cars were large, had bench seating, and, a column shift (no center console shift to get in the way), things were a bit easier. If you have access to a station wagon, (mini)van, or pickup truck, then the possibilities are much greater.
For starters, consider a modified (to fit) version of the Woman Superior. Another position to modify is what I call the "X" or "Y" depending upon the position of your legs. With these you recline on your sides facing each other.
> should give up on the G spot for now and if so should I be using my hand or should she or does it depend on the position.
Consider involving the G-spot as part of Foreplay. Fingering works....
Unless you have plenty of vertical and horizontal space, I doubt there will be enough room for intercourse and finding an arrangement of your bodies that will permit your penis to rub her G-spot. Even so, I'm more in favor of doing this by hand as I have constant contact and can vary or modulate what I do with my finger(s). Involving a penis is more of a hit and miss proposition, not ideal when trying to build friction.
thanks kinda what I figured
luckily for me I drive an older luxury sedan friend of mine describes it as a living room on wheels
we will keep experimenting then.
Thanks again!
a lady needs to build steam... do not let your instincts get away from you,..,. breath into your kissin an dnibbles, warm her, control your hands and be sensual for a time.... the backs of her arms, her wrists,,, hips are loaded with nerve endings too.... then
flip the front seats forwad, you sit in back seat, she faces away and has complete control of stroke and pace. lick your thumb and lightly massage her anus too.....
great view and she'll love it.
we have talked about stimulating the anus but she had a really bad experience with a previous boyfriend so she really doesn't want near it we have talked about but I think its best to just leave it alone. she is up for just about everything else.
stimulation and penetration are two TOTALLY differnt things.
take the time to earn trust.....
BUT- the position is a good advice
Good luck....
read up on the "tantra" and learn some edging control. It will serve you well fo a lifetime muy friend
FF
sexual abuse is not an issue to be taken lightly if I insisted she would let me she just prefers that I do not so I don't I know she trusts me sometimes I think she may trust in me to much. so thats that we aren't going to experiment with anal for awhile.
Note to remember when having sex in a vehicle...:D
Those window heater thingies on the back window
do get really warm lol and some can leave a burn :rolleyes:
I will keep that in mind.
[QUOTE=derschwarzwald;235610]I know they are different she just flat doesn't want me playing with her butt and respect that. there was also an incident with her step dad so we talk about and thats fine by me.[/QUOTE]
he means she doesnt want him near her ass when having sex which means SHE DOESNT WANT HIM NEAR IT DAMN PEOPLE it dont matter how much trust you have with your partner if she doesnt like it because of bad experinces with it then she doesnt want it OK