This isn't a first time issue, but I didn't know which section to post this in.
But me and my girlfriend have been having sex for about 3 months now, and two of those months were great. Just these past few times, there has been a problem thats been beating me up inside.
I'd get it up, inside her and we'd start just fine.
Then after about maybe 3-4 minutes, my penis starts to loose it's erection.
I mean it feels good, but I really have no idea why it just dies on me.
I'm wondering if this is normal, and what I can do to help get rid of this problem. :(
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
maybe spend more time having foreplay...also have her give you a blow job and then for round two have intercourse....during your recovery time you can spend more time going down on her and such so that she is fully geared up for intercourse and wont take as long to get off.
I'll go with that.
Another thing I'll go for is to make sure you are on the raw edge of an orgasm before beginning intercourse.
Add to all of this, if you do begin to loose your erection, pull out and go back to some making out and foreplay to gain it back, reestablish your peak, then continue. This has two benefits; first, you regain your erection directly; second, love making is prolonged.
3 months isn't all that long. You two may still have some shyness around each other. RELAX. You are not a machine. Stop expecting yurself to be one.
Drink lots of non-alcoholic fluids beforehand and stay hydrated. Vitamins will also help.
Now then, sex begins in the brain - so, stop thinking "will I or won't I" and FOCUS UPON HER. Take your time and get to know each and every "hot button" she has - even those she knows nothing about.
Body Worship - yes, take the time to do it. If your erection fails, stop intercourse and resume body worship and do it like you LIVE for it! Have her do erotic massage and body worship to you.
This will do two things for you: you will release her desires and most men find nothing so stimulating as an unbridled woman who is bent upon immediately ****ing him and will not take "no" for an answer. And, when she's that "hot" she'll orgasm quickly and strongly and may even do multiples for you - perhaps she'll also ejaculate. All of which you MAY find highly stimulating which will help with your erection.
A relaxed penis is an erect penis. The blood vessels in the penis are surrounded by muscles which are normally tight, closing off the blood vessels.
Relax the muscles and the blood enters. As long as those muscles stay relaxed, the erection will mantain. Practice relaxing. Clear your mind, focus upon the feeling that your muscles are now jello. The sun is warm on your skin. The sea gently rolling, A light breeze. All's right in the world. Aaaaah!
Just be sure to do this on your own.