I can't say for sure, but my guess is that guys have it worse then girls (at least straight ones) when it comes to oral sex... When was the last time you took a close look at a vagina?

Can you please be more specific about what you don't like about penises?

I'm a guy and as perplexed as you. Here are some random thoughts that come to mind:

* When we fall for a person, we generally accept the entire package, even the parts not seen for awhile. This means, dimples, wrinkles, or a stray hair, also.

* I've read that women as a whole do not get as enamored about a penis as a guy does and consider it more of a tool to wield and control their man's sexual response.

* I'm wondering if you think the penis is unclean or that the fluids that come out are.

* Does size and shape have something to do with your dislike?

* What about not being completely accepting of a guy on other matters and so his penis literally and figuratively stands out as an outward manifistation of this? In other words, you are not willing to let go completely so you focus on his penis as the bad thing rather than what is really wrong with the relationship? (I'm just asking the questions.....)

> I do however really like balls

"Velly interestingk." This would tend to nullify the question above.

* What about them attracts you? Why do you think the same lure can't be transferred to a penis?

* What is your reaction to a penis with your eyes closed and/or the lights out? If the same, then my guess is that you continue to have issues about the man and/or the relationship because the penis is there as much for your enjoyment and pleasure as his.

Making love is a couple's outward expression of their internal feelings and emotions about the love they have for each other. That you find it difficult to accept all of him, would seem to indicate some underlying problem.

* That said, what was your childhood like? Were you molested or abused? Were your moral teachings such that you were taught that the genitals were somehow bad or that sex was to be avoided except perhaps for procreation?

> if I do reciprocate I get bored very quickly and if it lasts very long I get really, really cranky.

This makes me think that either the guy is not a good enough "entertainer" or, that you are just "not that into him".

> I've only been able to swallow cum without choking and vommiting once

It is important to know that swallowing semen is both an option and a personal choice to do or not do regardless of how much you are in love with the man. There is no right answer, only personal preference.

If you do want to try, again, then I suggest the following technique:

Raise your tongue so that the tip touches the roof of your mouth. In this position, the semen will squirt against the lower surface and will not fly back to the rear of your mouth where it will likely trigger a gag reflex.

Once the orgasm is over, you can either swallow the liquid as is or mix it with saliva or a glass of water or wine.

If you answered the question, above, about what comes out being dirty, then you have incorrect information. Semen and precum and urine are all sanitary solutions except if there is a urinary tract infection or some other disease; otherwise, semen is mostly protein with a few calories and some other compouinds tossed in. The taste of semen is an acquired taste, as is a woman's vaginal mucos.

> Any tips on getting myself to like penises or swallow cum would really be appreciated

I would begin by analyzing one or more of your relationships.

You pose an interesting quandary and I am interested in reading your thoughts on all this after you have done some soul searching.

Got questions?

uhmm, since you dont like penises, i guess here is the first thing that comes to my mind, maybe your gay? try experimenting and see what you prefer.

[QUOTE=Quote (Trivium @ Dec. 14 2005,23:14)]uhmm, since you dont like penises, i guess here is the first thing that comes to my mind, maybe your gay? try experimenting and see what you prefer.[/QUOTE]
i wouldnt jump the gun and conclude that. i think it just means u havnt met the right guy. when u do, you'll accept the whole package as dancingdoc2 has briefly touched on. it may be insecurity or embarassment, but you'll work out of it in the right situation and with the right partner. if not, remember that you're in control with your sex life. if you're still uncomfortable with a guy's penis when you're with him, explain ur worries and he cn reassure u...

Close your eyes and make yourself feel the various sensations you fell. Pulsations and the growing. It will become amazing to you. You must let them grow on you. The male penis is a different world.