hi.. im 18 years old... my girlfriend is also 18.. and we just recently started to "try" to have sex. We've tried about 5 times and the 4th and 5th time she had blead, but we still cant get it more then 2-3 inches in withought her needing me to stop because of the pain. We tried using lubricant....and then alot of lubricant but being wet isnt the problem... it just herts her too much. We dont rush into it, we also put it in very slowly and still when it hits a certain point she always needs me to stop. What do we do? this is taking forever.
Sat, 07/01/2006 - 00:01
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Cant put it in???
I had the exact same problem wen i tried to have sex with my bf the first few times. It was quite a few months ago wen i started tryin and it took a while for it to work properly..
I had to make him stop the first 4 or 5 times we tried cos i was in so much pain. He started usin his fingers instead a lot which helped loads and it wasnt long after that that we managed to have proper sex which was a great feeling!!
Just be patient with her and understand that it really does hurt! You'll have to try using fingers first and make sure she's relaxed, then try again to have sex. You'll get it soon im sure. xx
From what iv read from other posts, i believe that maybe her opening is too tight and cant quite take the girth of you penis. Im not sure about it, but have a browse in the chick chat section, or search "pain" "sex" in the search bar
[QUOTE=Dilated_Pupilz]hi.. im 18 years old... my girlfriend is also 18.. and we just recently started to "try" to have sex. We've tried about 5 times and the 4th and 5th time she had blead, but we still cant get it more then 2-3 inches in withought her needing me to stop because of the pain. We tried using lubricant....and then alot of lubricant but being wet isnt the problem... it just herts her too much. We dont rush into it, we also put it in very slowly and still when it hits a certain point she always needs me to stop. What do we do? this is taking forever.[/QUOTE]
I'm having the same problem but I think maybe you should try fingering her first if you haven't already and make sure to do foreplay and anything that arouses her. My past mistakes were rushing into "sex" and being stupid and not doing anything to arouse myself beforehand. Also, try different positions. Today we tried again and when he and I were facing each other it hurt after he put it in about an inch but I turned around and he put it in me from the back and it actually felt REALLY good and went in farther. (I'm sorry if that's too much information but I just wanted you to know and maybe solve your problem because I sure as hell want to solve mine too!)
Find the threads on vaginismus. Perhaps twenty percent of all women suffer from this early in their sexual experience. Most get over it but it is nothing to be trifled with.