I used to have the same problem, which led to less and less oral

the two main problems are right in front of your nose
you're thinking about it too much and she's making a fuss about it

even with amazing oral, you have to just let go and completely enjoy the whole thing, close your eyes and just completely enjoy the sensations she is giving you. don't focus on finishing. Talk to her a bit and tell your as dirty as you are comfy with how great everything feels. Let her know which parts of the "job" feel best and which don't quite work for you. Tell her how sexy she looks while performing and let her know just how much you love her lips and tongue and all they are doing for you and to you.

While not in bed, let her know that her bringing it up only makes you think about it more, which just makes it harder to get there. It's kind of a catch 22, but once you can get over that initial hurdle it gets easier over time.

One thing she can do that might provide better results is if she just goes down on you when you least expect it as it throws your rhythm off and you're not already worried about how things will go.

Good Luck

I have had partners who took forever, if at all, to respond to oral but lasted two thrusts in me; others who could go forever in me but lasted one lick. Not something for either your wife or you to become stressed over but I understand her reaction. Each of us women wants to be the best at whatever we choose to do for our men. She gets you real close and you enjoy it; the finish can be however she chooses and she has been successful.

one other thing that helped me/us get over the 'hump' was that I would stroke myself instead of her using her hand

it was fun for both of us, plus she got an up close and personal lesson on how I like to be touched

Hello Surreal,
I do not recall if I replied to one of your earlier posts welcoming you to the site. If not, I do now. If yes, have you been reading the articles listed in the Index?

The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful as well as how-to information that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page you will find even more information.

There is one article that discusses the how-to of both manual and oral stimulation and I recommend that the two of you read and discuss the information, then put it into practice. **

[QUOTE=Surreal;271773][COLOR="blue">My wife gives me amazing oral but I rarely reach orgasm from it. I have no issues with climaxing from manual or vaginal stimulation. I get really close from oral but can't quite make it most of the time. [/COLOR]

This situation is explained in the article. In addition to what is discussed in the article, key to any of what the two of you do with and for each other is communication and feedback. Feedback can be both vocal and or thru "Body Language" regarding what you need now/next and for how you are responding to each other's kisses and caresses.

[COLOR="blue">I really don't mind but it really bothers my wife. [/COLOR]

In my never to be so humble opinion, this is magnanimous and selfless, yet stingy. You should mind.

[COLOR="blue">She thinks I might have been abused as a child and repressed the memory or that I have some sort of other psychological issue. Now I'm not sure what's the best way to handle this. [/COLOR]

** Asked and answered, above. You and your wife need information before jumping to conclusions and worrying about facts not in evidence.

[COLOR="blue">I've tried assuring her there isn't a problem but she's insistent on solving this. Should I try figuring out a way to orgasm from oral? Not sure what more I can do to assure her our sex life is perfect the way it is.[/COLOR]

I understand the need and importance to find a fix for how to achieve an orgasm from oral stimulation and now you have this.

As for your sex life being "perfect the way it is", she must have trust in what you say and believe it. That you want more or different for your perfect sex life is quite normal and the two of you should explore and learn together in partnership.

[COLOR="blue">We're in our mid 20's physically healthy and don't smoke or take drugs. I'm uncircumcised if that matters and we've been doing the program the past few months since I found this site.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Continue with what you are doing, and as pointed out, above, read the other articles listed in the Index either together or independently, then discuss what you have learned and add the information to what each of you already knows. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other.

Your wife should understand that if you can climax from a hand job (masturbation or her loving actions) that there is nothing wrong physically or psychologically. What does this leave? Technique! There is at least one article and several replies to threads that covers the how-to of mastering each others technique for stimulating the genitals.

So, to lay to rest any fears of inadequacy, molestation, or other past negative things, it is important for both of you to understand how each of us responds to stimulation and that it is not always the same with the same results each time. As explained in the article about manual and oral stimulation, a body responds differently to different types of stimulation--it's not all the same. Your wife should be comforted to know that there is no major problem and your situation is easily fixed.

Have fun practicing.

-doc

Relaxation and technique - quite so. Also let your thoughts at the time play on the idea of YES and be sure to give non-word verbal expressions of pleasure - oooh's aaaaah's and so forth.

Perhaps if she growled?