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How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

I hope this article will answer your questions.

-doc

I think you should do your best to keep your mind mentally aroused, and you should be ok, that usually fixes the problem. People don't concentrate on the sensations enough, and therefore don't cum or can't keep their erections.

[QUOTE=CollierAlda1;265881]I think you should do your best to keep your mind mentally aroused, and you should be ok, that usually fixes the problem. People don't concentrate on the sensations enough, and therefore don't cum or can't keep their erections.[/QUOTE]

There is some truth to the above, however, I stand by recommendation to read the article mentioned above. Please read the first paragraph under this heading:

ORAL STIMULATION-

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> is there something wrong with me not being able to achieve orgasm from oral?

Asked and answered, above.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask ask about--like yours. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page you will find even more information.

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I met another guy many years ago who also claimed that he could not orgasm from fellatio. I suggest two possibilities. 1) Some men. for some reason don't - inhibitions, fear of offending her mouth with semen, other psychological factors....and 2) I find it more likely that you have not had fellatio performed properly. When it is performed properly most men can reach orgasm quickly by this means. If your girl really wants to please you that way you and she should educate yourselves and each other on blow job techniques. Ignore suggestions of using the hand to stimulate the penis while sucking on the head. The hand can actually numb the response of the nerves on the underside of your penis which is the area you need to have stimulated with the soft moist lips and tongue in order to reach orgasm.
Also both you and your partner should keep this in mind - no one is obligated to have or to give an orgasm during any sexual act. Concentrate more on bonding. The orgasms will cum.

There is no proper way to perform fellatio. It is like there is not a proper way to give a handjob. And let me tell you there are tons of ways to give a handjob. Each girl has a basic idea but always add their own twist.

The problem with fellatio is that some men aren't sensitive enough to orgasm from it. I for one have never had an orgasm through oral. The closest I got was from receiving a ridiculously talented blow job from a girl with no gag reflex, big lips which ensured NO teeth at any point, and large breasts and she used in a very visual manner. But I didn't ever cum just got close.

I can orgasm via manual stimulation and vaginal penetration. But they both take a decent amount of time to achieve. And this issue was very quickly answered in docs article. I went nuts wanting to orgasm through oral and such, but then realized (with the articles help) that I was accustomed to my own hand. So now I use oral and manual stimulation as a form of foreplay before sex. Its a nice way to relax and build arousal before penetration (and I don't have to fear orgasming). If its just a "fool around" session I simply give my partner a show which pleases her even more. Perhaps you should go about your "problem" this way

I mean hey if it feels that amazing why would you ever want to orgasm?

[QUOTE=Ducy;266258]There is no proper way to perform fellatio. It is like there is not a proper way to give a handjob. And let me tell you there are tons of ways to give a handjob. Each girl has a basic idea but always add their own twist.
I mean hey if it feels that amazing why would you ever want to orgasm?[/QUOTE]

I beg to differ. There are probably more wrong ways to give a blow job than right ways. As for hand jobs, no one will ever give me a better hand job than I can give myself. Most girls and women really do not have a basic idea of how to give a blow job until they actually practice on someone who is patient and willing and unafraid to teach them how to do it. Now what varies is what works for each individual man. It takes more than big lips and no gag reflex to give a successful blow job. As people are so fond of saying about penes - it's not what you have, but how you use it. The same goes for blow jobs. What matters is technique and a connection between fellatrix (or fellator) and the receiver and the fellatrix/or's ability to perform what works on the reciver.
It feels more amazing when you reach orgasm. Believe me.

My point is that there is not "right" way. Using a term such as that infers that any other way is wrong. And since one man enjoys deepthroating another enjoys licking. I had a gf who would gently bite. I didn't like it yet when I brought it to her attention she said her last boyfriend loved it.

Some men like ball and cock torture. Some men enjoy "playing ball" and some men just like good ol' fashion penis in vagina till a baby is formed. That is why I believe there really isn't a "right way". You proved my point with your opinion on my experience with a woman who had no gag reflex. I found it to be one of the best I've had. Meanwhile you find other things enjoyable. (Not to say I hate any other. Girl who has a gag reflex, I just find deepthroating more pleasureable. And even though many women believe using a hand and mouth recreates the feel, being a man who has experience both I can say it doesn't come close)

I will agree that it takes a patient and open partner to make the difference when it comes to oral. If a man lays back utterly silent hell be disappointed. If he says things like oh that's it and gives feedback then it'll be even better

I also apologize for the improper wording. Most girls have a basic idea of MANUAL stimulation. I will admit I have yet to meet an inexperienced girl who understands the basics of a blow job lol. I did actually have one girl think it meant to literally blow. It was quite interesting waiting for her to do something only to hear the "woosh" of her blowing on it hahahahaha.

So anyway, with all due respect, how does that apply to hurlyburly not being able to orgasm from oral?

I don't really know lol. We went from talking about not orgasming from sex to discussing proper orgasm procedures rofl!

My husband of over 20 yrs is unable to orgasm from oral sex and has only been able to finish with the hand and I have to be extremely careful with the gans ( head ) when he's close and after ejaculation. He becomes too sensitive, almost to the point of pain when he's nearing orgasm if the stimulation is too direct, not matter how soft the touch, no matter if it's hand or mouth. My clitoris is the same way and I've never had an oral sex orgasm, because of the sensitivity, but a hand job to my pelvic mound sends me over the edge with verry little effort. Nearly all women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, but direct clitoral stimulation for me is the surrest way to not only hurt me but remove all possibilty of reaching an orgasm at all. Obviously, there is a variety of variance with the penis a well, not all will pleasured by the same techniques. Hurley's penis may be like my husbands' penis and prefer the muscular walls of the vagina.

I think that different women prefer different types of clitoral stimulation. While some prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have masturbated will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.

there are a few factors here that can really contribute to this.

I used to have the same problem several years ago, initially, what I realized, is that I'd been masterbating so frequently during my single days that I had a horrible time getting the right sensations from oral to be able to complete. After I quit masterbating it was alot easier. One other thing was the techniques that my wife were using. For what worked for me, her mouth wasn't quite wet enough and she didn't use enough tongue but more lip action. What I finally did one night was gave her a bj on her index finger to show her what I would like for her to try and that upped the ante by more than 50%. It still takes me along time to cum from oral, but she's much more open to it, knowing that I'll be able to finish and that her efforts aren't wasted.

Finding the 'right' combination of suction, licking, teeth (some like it), with or without hands, and if you add humming or twisting while moving up and down the shaft - for any particular man takes exploration and practice. PArt of the exploration is to watch his technique when he masturbates - replicate what he does nad then add in something a bit extra to increase the stimulation.