Hello... I have a problem...
I have been with my girlfriend for a long time now and we decided to start having sex in the last two months or so. We haven't had intercourse because we're waiting so she can go on the pill and it has been impossible to get an appointment, but we'd rather wait than be caught with our pants down and pregnant (no pun intended)....
So the problem is that when we're together, I have never been able to ejaculate from what she is doing.. (i.e. handjob, blowjob, etc.).. I have been rather close to the point of orgasm, but I know it won't happen in the moment because the rhythm I'm used to is simply different from what she does... so my question is will I be able to orgasm when we start intercourse?? My theory is that I won't because the rhythm will still be very different...
Any thoughts would be well appreciated.... Thanks everyone!
Then show her what you're used to; masturbate for her. She can adopt your technique.
I know the feeling... Handjobs/blowjobs take far longer to get me off when she's doing them than if I were to get myself off. I don't fault my girlfriend for that, and it's definitely pleasurable.
But yes, intercourse should be much better for you, assuming you're in a male dominant position. After all, it's not that the rhythm is different than what you're used to, it's that it's not perfectly in tune with what you're feeling. If you're in control of the thrusting, you should be able to manage pretty well :)
Yeah you should be able to, it is a completely different feeling but seems to be able to get most guys off. First couple of times it might not happen though. I never ejaculate from my gf using her hands but I still can during sex fairly easily, I think it also has a bit to do with the thrusting. When she is doing stuff to you you generally aren't thrusting at all, as soon as you are having sex and start thrusting you feel it coming. I have a bi of trouble when she is on top, which is also why I think the thusting helps.
i still cant make my boyfriend ejaculate now and it's starting to get really annoying but we perseveare in hope that one day i will
Whew... good to know... that helps a lot.....
My rhythm when I masturbate is extremely fast (I've been doing it for like 10 years now so I guess I'm good and used to it...) and that must be why she can't get me to orgasm when she gives me a hand or blowjob...
Does this mean that the rhythm doesn't need to be quite as fast when we are having intercourse though?? I understand if I do the thrusting that I will control it, and I can already picture everything being okay, but it should still work even if it is a little slower than I'm used to?
Thanks for all the help - I think this forum is great.
Also its easier to ejaculate during sex because you're more into and your horomones and sexual anxiety are pumping a lot faster. Sex just creates a better more intense environment allowing you to get off easier than her just using her hand or something
I mean intercourse is totally different sensation and I would hope you would not jack rabbit her like your hand does your wang. =\
Not fun! lol
communicate tell her what youd tell yourself... if you cant communicate there is an issue and you should rethink how close you are and should be
Stop masturbating for a few days before hand. You'll be more open to other forms of stimulation. If you masturbate too much, it can make it extremely difficult to learn how to climax from other forms of stimulation. Masturbation teaches your body to react to only your way, so letting off the solo time will help.