I have been sexually active for 2 years now, but it seems like no matter what my fiance and I do, I am unable to orgasim. It's driving him crazy and I have no idea what to do. I have tried pleasing myself, but I get bored and don't feel anything anyways and he and I are constantly trying new positions, but to no avail. Is there a possibility that my body is incapable of climaxing?
Wed, 09/24/2008 - 20:16
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can't orgasim
I did see a show about a group of women that phyically couldn't. That is VERY rare though. More often the not it's a mental block or you need more stimulation. Age can be a factor. I've heard of many women that did not achieve their first orgasm until years after they became sexually active. Without knowing everything about you it's hard to know. If it's a big concern to you...see a doctor.
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No one reeally knows whether or why some women cannot reach orgasm. Have a complete gyn exam and if there are any obvious reasons, the doctor will discuss them with you. Whilst there, ask him for a referral to a sex counselor.
Please look at the Index and then read the several articles that discuss the female orgasm and the how to of it all.
--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics
The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva
Why Women's Orgasms?
Female Sexual Response
For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?
Too Sensitive: Suggestions for touching and pleasuring the Clitoris
some women will never have a orgasim. it's hard to explain yet i say that i felt a release, before i actually had my first orgasm. This release is the desire or want has been fulfilled. I was in my 40's when I felt my first one with a partner during penetration. As odd as it is it was the first time he and I were together and it was at Disney Land.
Don't fret, and when it surprises you you won't be disappointed. Just relax and enjoy what is happening til it does.
Orgasms begin in your head. So what is it about sex that bothers you?
Ive been dating this guy for a year now and im a nympho but what i think the problem is about me being a nympho is that i am not able to organsim as i tell him i can...i dunno why but ever since we first got together ive been lying about my amounts of orgasims per sex time frame. I say 10-20 sometimes i mean i feel the whole thang and it feels lovely but ive also masterbated and when i do that i cant go on after that unless i wait a little time. But i dont know what to do know just because we just had our first year anniversary and he's the type of guy that never settled down so maybe i felt if i told him i got more he would be proud or something i dont know. My psychology teacher says i have a sex addiction...
I could weep!
1. it is M_A_S_T_U_R_B_A_T_E with a U
2. You are NOT addicted to sex, you are SEARCHING for sexual fulfillment - in the wrong place apparently since you feel you have to lie about your lack of orgasms... why ask a teacher instead of a professional?
3. Yes, yes, your're being "nice" by LYING to him about his skill. Which means nothing will get corrected. Way to go. Congrats, you're a CHEAT. Feeling better? No? Try NOT LYING to save his pride. You can be gentle and honest.
So talk to a professional and find out what is REALLY driving you.