Hi. I'm having a problem and I've had it for quite a while. I'm in a healthy sexual relationship with my fiance yet there are times when I feel the need to please myself. Problem is I don't really know how. There was one time a few years ago I succeeded and actually had an orgasm but nothing since then. How do I relax myself enough to do it? Should I use toys or will my fingers do just fine? I feel so helpless. 
Wed, 01/05/2005 - 03:29
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Can't Masterbate
LittleMiss there is so much information on this board and on the net on how to masturbate. The best advice I can give you is to learn your body and what feels good to you.
I think it does help to relax to truly feel the sensations. Although I have gotten off just for the purpose of improving my mood and easing any urge I am feeling to have an orgasm.
You should find a quiet time and get comfortable. Start out slowly. Carress your own body with your fingers. Start with your face and work your way down slowly letting the feelings build. Fantasize about something that really turns you on.
Now you can use your fingers and for most women that will do the job but I personally love my vibrator. the feelings of it on my clit are tremendous. You just got to explore and learn what you like. Mostly have fun doing it.
Oh a detachable showerhead can do wonders too.
ive always been that with with my hands, i dont like them in there, lol sooo what idid was just like rubbed the clit area.. and dont go inside at all. you dont gotta be relaxed for it either.
Jamie