I have a new boyfriend. I have been with men in the past and there have been no problems. This time we have the whole relationship thing down. Been together for awhile and waited. The problem is that we cannot get the sex thing right. I am afraid it is my fault that I cannot make him happy. We have fun and enjoy ourselves, but sometimes he cannot get or hold an erection or cum. It seems the way I perform oral sex does not work for him. Is it me?
Fri, 01/07/2005 - 04:55
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Can't make him happy
Can i ask you to be more detailed on How you are trying to excite him? Just need to know to give you more hints or advise.. If you dont want to say it public i will give you my e-mail address. I have went through it all. I have been married for 16 years now and we went thru a spell also until i got creative.. we are a couple that have tried just about everything except swinging.
One thing when your giving him oral make sure your teeth arent rubbing...that doesnt feel the greatest.
The bells are not ringing. Should tell you something of the potential of the relationship.
hmm, sorry love.. it isnt your fault or his.. its kinda BOTH.. when sex doesnt work, it might be something he has.. like he cant cum from that. .or something, Just talk with him and ask how you can make it better for him.. but it isnt because you arent good enough, because that isnt the case
First off i am a 22 old male in florida. I have learned that it is not often the girl or guy who has a problem but it is the lack of sponteneaity(sorry if misspelled). There are a numerous things that can create a better experience. You could change locations, instead of the bed-push him up against the side of the house while you guys are walking in and plase him orally. You could try talking dirty to him out of nowhere, a lot of men find that a huge turnon.Techniques for oral: 1. long licks up and down shaft 2. play with the area right under the head of penis on under side(kinda like male clit) 3. Flick your tounge on head of penis 4. swirl tounge around penis
the only way to know is to talk to him about it. ask him is there anything else i can do to turn u on...etc. also he may be nervous and thats y he cant hold an erection. but TALK to him about it.
-mariah