He could try to improve his skill. Other than that - you are as you are. Him getting cut will not make a difference. You getting "enlarged" is not a good idea on several levels - so do not go there. You may just have to find another man.

You are taking his issue on as your problem. He needs to figure out "how to" not you.

Perhaps your body is telling you something that your emotions do not want to hear.

Why is he unable to get it in? From the sounds of it, it is because he has foreskin or because you have a small opening. Have you talked to your gyno about the issue? Have you tried lube?

Suki - she's done all of that.

I have basically the same problem, so I will be watching this thread for any advice.
My last boyfriend and I were sexually active, and although it hurt a bit each time, he could still get it in.... I think why it hurt was because I was never really fully turned on, there was no foreplay (dont ask).

But the guy I am with now, we tried having sex and much like you he could not get it in. It hurt WAY too much that I had to make him stop and I've been too ashamed to try it since. The last thing I want to do is get into it again only to have to tell him to stop again.
But this guy Did have me very warmed up hahaha, and he even tried using lube... it did not work.

I went to go get checked out and the doctor told me it must be in my head or he must be large around. But I did not tighten at her (the doctor) going down there which was strange she said.

My boyfriend is also not circumsized, or so I've been told.. sounds silly I know but I havent really looked that much at it and what I have seen I couldnt tell you... I Never looked at any past guys penis'. Currently I'm working up my courage to give him a blowjob but thats a whole other issue (it's not that I dont want to, I do, but I'm scared of doing it, I don't know how and I just dont want to be made to look like a fool, plus I have Major gag reflexes so I can see it now, me gagging on it and throwing up.. oh how wonderful).
Back on track of what I was saying, the last guy I dated was also (apparently) not circumsized, but he still fit. Although he never gave me any pleasure... maybe he was really tiny around.

Sorry I trail off a lot.

Finger your wet little clitty darling and cum as often as you can!

Hi, im new to this site and still slightly confused as to how i can post my own question. Im 21 yrs old and just recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend a few weeks ago. the problem however is that I (we?) have trouble getting his penis inside me. I know it could be due to stress and lack of forepay only i feel very comfortable with him and the foreplay is amazing. the first time we had sex took significant time and "effort" to get him inside me. it just somehow kept slipping out, and once penetration was achieved (with me on top of him) i felt (as did he) that somehow my insides were trying to push his penis out and the minute we started thrusting up and down, that was it out it went and impossible to get back in without strenuous effort!
i feel somehow that it is my fault and i dont know what to do or try (we have used lube) any ideas or suggestions would be welcome, i feel quite embarassed about this and therefore almost dread trying (and failing) again.

OKay the way you post is simple. Go into the sub forum that it belongs in. (This would be new to sex) then go to the upper left hand side and there will be a button that says submit new thread.

Click on it and then type it out and post it.

Sounds as if you are tightening up; try to relax and not stress. It takes practice to figure out how you both work; apparently he needs to learn how to guide himself in. Lye on your back, pillow under your rump, him on his knees, your legs over his thighs, and your legs bent. Let him slide in, you can reach down and control some movement as well. Just be easy on the thrusting part...pulling out too far will cause him to slide out (ouch). Nice & easy strokes which are slow & deliberate for now until you both get some more experience.

The more you stress the more difficult it gets for you both!!!

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;214625]Suki - she's done all of that.[/QUOTE]

LOL I just reread my PP and it wasn't written as it was said in my mind. I was tired when I posted. So, let me rephrase:

It sounds like you feel he cannot enter you because he has foreskin - this really shouldn't be the issue unless he has pain when the foreskin retracts. Whether or not a man has foreskin does not really make a difference as far as whether or not he can enter you. This is something you can also ask your gyno about.

You said your Dr has told you that you have a small vaginal opening, but have you talked to your Dr specifically about this problem you are having with this partner vs the previous one? Has your Dr told you that your vaginal opening will/can make it hard for you to have sex? There may be something that they can do to help you if you talk to them about the issue you are having.

You also said that the previous guy you were with didn't have this problem: is he much smaller than your current one? If there is a big difference in size, it could certainly just be the size of his penis and the size of your opening.

I didn't see whether or not you are using lubricant or if you are getting enough foreplay. If not, you should definitely be doing both. As you get turned on, your vagina becomes more elastic.

Banana and chained

Do a google on vaginismus. You will find information on a condition that affects one or two percent of all women. From my experience, a lot more women have some difficulty and overcome the problem before seeking professional attention. In your case, banana, it sounds like a little practice without pressure and you may overcome the issue. Discuss it with your boyfriend and then proceed with care.

DO NOT EVEN consider buying any of the books or do it yourself kits that you may find advertised. If this is a continuing proble, talk to your doctor. The doctor can refer you to a therapist who can be helpful. Most women get over this on their own. Those who do not after several attempts should get help other than do it yourself. This is no one's fault. Some of our bodies simply clamp- down to prevent penetration. Sometimes with everyone and sometimes with only certain ones. I have encountered women for whom I cannot perform an internal exam. Relax and be certain you have great trust in your partner. Then get help if you need it - sooner the better.