I am in desperate need of help. Ok. Well, me and my wonderful girlfriend of six months are now sexually active. She has gotten me off several times, but I cannot seem to give her an orgasm. We are not having sex, and do not intend to for awhile. I have eaten her out, and fingered her. I've read everything, and nothing seems to work. She claims that it all feels the same. I really want her to have this. Someone, please give me some advic.
Sun, 03/27/2005 - 19:05
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Can't get her off
YES, it's very true that (at least some) women enjoy sex/messing around, even when there is no orgasm. I love the intimacy with my boyfriend, and it makes me feel very close to him and I love that. It does feel good, too.
Now about the problem... you should ask her how often she masturbates? I think it might help if she really spends some time figuring out how to please herself, and what she really likes. Once she figures it out on her own, without the pressures of having somebody else present, she should be able to tell you some things that work... she should even touch herself and get herself "worked up" before you start pleasing her.
But remember to be open and accepting, and let her know that she can tell you what to do, no matter if you might think it's odd... that has been a big hold-up for me, thinking that the instructions I want to give may sound weird, or that he may not want to do them. Because of this, I've held back and have never given my bf a chance to bring me to orgasm.
It's pretty much up to her, to figure out what she needs, and to show you how to do it.
lol, yes, as girls dont orgasm every single time!
All points above are very good^. Isn't it true though that some girls may even enjoy sex or fooling around even without an orgasm..
Orgasm is a state of freely giving the mind and body over to the pleasure of the moment.
Sometimes in wanting it so much, you can inhibit its coming.
Sometimes it will take a long time of stimulation for it to first make an appearance because it takes that long for her to quiet her mind enough to let the pleasure take control.
I will say that once she finds it for herself, it will be easy to find again.
I will say that her expectations of what it should be may be inhibiting her.
I will say that maybe you are expecting a performance from her and putting pressure on her subconsciously.
I will say that maybe she feels like she is going to pee and freezes because she is not at the place of vunerability to trust you to accept that.
I will say that maybe she feels your attitude is one of selfishness wanting to please her ultimately for your own gratification instead of hers.
These are just a few of the general things that can affect a woman's ability to orgasm.
Yeah, well, I know I am her first for nearly everything. I just really want to please her because she's great, and has pleased me in that department much. She says she is curious about having an orgasm, and we try communicating as much as possible to achieve that. I suppose we both just may be to unexpierienced to get all this yet. But, at any rate, I am going to keep reading, and trying, Thank you all. Any more tips would be appreciated.
You have no need of help; you are orgasmic. Your girlfriend needs help and mau or may not want it. YOU are not responsible for any woman's orgasm, so quit thinking of it that way. She may or may not have experienced orgasm.She may or may not know what she needs or is looking for. You cannot give her this. Without her acknowledgement or any information about her or her background, there is no advice to be given
well man from guy to guy. i know that some of the women under me have had a grat time and some have not and only liked it. but from reading through thies fourms i have been seeing by a lot of women that the amount of stimulation can have nothing to do with you. but her mental picture. talk to her and make shure the lines of comunaction is wide open. have you asked her what she likes and over time pice the puzzle thies women are togher? sorry if my spelling throws you off.