It is neither normal nor abnormal; it is you. I have had partners who had difficulty with one mode and with another, they were premature ejaculators. Some women will learn your hot buttons.
I have penned several replies to the question of not being able to have an orgasm from both perspectives. As Brandye is so fond of saying, just read around... and, do a search of my recent posts. (Use the search terms: "mimic" and/or "responsible for our own orgasms".)
In reply to the notion that "No one seems to be make me orgasm through any means" is what both of us have said numerous times: Each and every one of us is responsible for our own orgasms, we do not give them away. All any of us can hope to do is to help our partner achieve her/his own. To do this we must show each other how we masturbate and then to guide each other's movements, rhythms, and pressures, several times until we learn to mimic our partner's movements. Why is this important? Because each of use quickly develops a pattern of movements that are unique and specific to each one of us and if we are off the mark by even a little, an orgasm will either not happen or be less than desired.
So, first before all else, learn to masturbate if you have not already accomplished this, and then, show your partner what to do and let him practice by guiding his movements with your hand several times until he picks up the technique. The same holds true in reverse for you with him.
It is neither normal nor abnormal; it is you. I have had partners who had difficulty with one mode and with another, they were premature ejaculators. Some women will learn your hot buttons.
I have penned several replies to the question of not being able to have an orgasm from both perspectives. As Brandye is so fond of saying, just read around... and, do a search of my recent posts. (Use the search terms: "mimic" and/or "responsible for our own orgasms".)
In reply to the notion that "No one seems to be make me orgasm through any means" is what both of us have said numerous times: Each and every one of us is responsible for our own orgasms, we do not give them away. All any of us can hope to do is to help our partner achieve her/his own. To do this we must show each other how we masturbate and then to guide each other's movements, rhythms, and pressures, several times until we learn to mimic our partner's movements. Why is this important? Because each of use quickly develops a pattern of movements that are unique and specific to each one of us and if we are off the mark by even a little, an orgasm will either not happen or be less than desired.
So, first before all else, learn to masturbate if you have not already accomplished this, and then, show your partner what to do and let him practice by guiding his movements with your hand several times until he picks up the technique. The same holds true in reverse for you with him.