OK
I already posted a thread talking about having problems with oral etc
But this is a slightly different problem, that was only briefly mentioned before
So, I've been able to get her to orgasm (sometimes much more than once) from both oral and fingering, and that's great and whatnot
But my problem is that I still can't find her clit, I've looked at diagrams, I know where it's supposed to be, etc
But I can't really find it, I'm sure I must have at some point in order to get her to orgasm, but I'm just never sure if I've got it or if that's just another part of the rest of her labia/vagina
So, I can never really tell if what I'm touching is her clit or not, she doesn't really moan (she's learned to be pretty damn quiet) so I get very little info from her reaction, and I don't know whether to keep at what I'm doing or not until i actually see her cumming.
Any help is much loved
Thanx,
--Max P.
Mon, 05/14/2007 - 04:07
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Can't find her clit - Hmm any help?
It's hard to miss man. The clit is on the outside. When she spreads her legs, take a long look. At the top of her slit is a small ball. It may have a hood over it. This is the clit. Under it is where the holes begin (Urethra and vagina). I don't know how you could miss it.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vulva
It's in the second picture.
OK, you've seen illustrations and you've given her oral; and, you have fingered her. Why not combine one or more, such as having a look at the "real estate" when giving her oral? Fingering? Why not combine an a visual memory of a diagram while tracing along one or the other labia up to the juncture of the two? (Just below is the hood and tip.) The same goes for tracing along the Vulva from the top down to the juncture of the two labia.
Another suggestion might be to get a better illustration. If you need help, ask me as there are several on the web illustrations and photos on the web.
Lastly, ask her.
> I'm sure I must have at some point in order to get her to orgasm, but I'm just never sure if I've got it or if that's just another part of the rest of her labia/vagina
Regardless of your approach from your description it seems as if you are not doing anything wrong. If she likes it and is not complaining, don't try to fix what ain't broke. On the other hand, if you think your technique can be tweaked, ask her.
> I get very little info from her reaction, and I don't know whether to keep at what I'm doing or not until i actually see her cumming.
She needs to give you feedback. I talk about the benefit of communication and feedback in at least one Sticky post. Have her read them with you or separately. Begin your reading here:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
Here is another informational Sticky. Please read the last paragraph in particular.
For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
If you cant find it id give up !!! :D
Dammit. Why didn't I think of wikipedia in the first place? I even started basiclly the same topic a day after this guy...