Some women are looser then others; positions can help as can Kegels. Squeezing your PC muscles. First time experiences are not a good judge of future experiences. Even those who are experienced have some "operational difficulties" since a new partner takes time to get to know & what each enjoys [and how].

[QUOTE=Worried_Confused;209147]Ok so i had sex for the first time and i was thinking that it might hurt a litle bit and be really uncomfortable but it was not at all. I have used sex toys before but mainly just the ones that go on your clit and vibrate. I have a few dildos but its usually pretty uncomfortable when i use them.
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First time intercourse may or may not be uncomfortable. It is good that you had a nice experience. Toys are best used when a person is very highly aroused. For women this usually means that the vaginal vault has enlarged, and that she is wet. I would also recommend that any toy designed to be inserted be lubricated. Following these recommendations should make future experiences more enjoyable.[/COLOR]

The guy i was with was not small, i would say he was about average (7 - 8) but i could not even really feel him inside me and he tried four or five positions and nothing.

[COLOR="Indigo">The inside of the vagina has no nerve endings, hence, no sensations; however, having said that, what sensations a woman does feel come from the nerves surrounding the opening of the vagina and just inside. Also, from the tugging of adjacent areas. Lastly, many women report much satisfaction from the sense of fullness experienced by having the vagina filled.[/COLOR]

I know it was not pleasurable for him either, he tried different positions and did not feel anything either. He ended up pulling out and jacking off.

[COLOR="Indigo">"Different strokes for different folks." The inside of the vagina creates a much different feeling than does stroking a penis by hand. The same can be said for what is felt from oral stimulation. The vagina envelopes the penis with a much lighter "grip" than does a person's hand. Mild or strong, the mouth and lips generally cause much stronger sensations than a hand, and, of a different character, often resulting in more intense feelings that are different than what a guy has become accustomed to to trigger an orgasm. Oral stimulation can transport a guy to Nirvana yet not trigger an orgasm. What usually will is a combination of oral and a hand job!

Bottom line: each guy has to get used to the feel of a vagina and learn a second way to reach an orgasm that is different albeit complimentary to what he has become accustomed to from his hand.[/COLOR]

This is the first time i have ever had sex and i do not understand why i am so loose. I am a bit over weight does this have anything to do with it?
Does anybody have a suggestion of what to do.

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Weight can be a factor, however, before you decide that this is a problem, I'd work on becoming more in tune with each other and your own individual bodies and their responses to new and different stimulations. Practice, practice, practice, some more

Sex is something we learn and you have some learning to do. You will never feel him inside because the vagina has no nerve endings. We get the sense of depth from pressure on other parts both inside and outside.

Looseness had little to do with it. Two inexperienced partners really do not know what to expect and how to improve upon it. Weight can be an issue but the placement of your legs is likely more important. After taking him in, relax and allow your legs to come closer together. When spread wide, much of what you want rubbed will not get rubbed.

Incidentally, he was not likely quite that big. That would definitely be on the large side. Many women experience no pain and too many feel nothing the first time. Time to get back and try some more.