Hello.. im 16 year old male. I have had sex 3 times and never been able to ejaculate even through handjobs and oral. I masterbate very quickly, as fast as i can possibly go, i have always done that. Maybe thats my problem? When i try other ways of masterbation (slow) it does not work, quite boring actually, as i do not feel very much when doing so. Anyways, i'm very worried and would like any info, besides go see a therapist would be appreciated thankkss:)!
Wed, 10/03/2007 - 22:50
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cant ejcaulate during sex/oral/hand
I too have this problem. How often do you masterbate? If you hold off for a while, at least a couple of days, you will most likely become more sensitive, ejaculate easier and will be more intense. Instead of just going realy fast, try gripping harder. I find it less tiresome and feels a lot better.
thanks for reply hotfire:) yeah, I have tried this most ways actually, and not been able too ejaculate. I have been told that I have got used to the one way I have masterbated my whole life. I masterbate twice sometimes 3 times a day, lol thats teenagers for you. It seems my shaft of penis does not have a lot of sensation in it, maybe its from my over use of masterbation not sure. But, during intercoarse I cannot ejaculate, it feels slow and numb even at times.
All I have to say is wait. wait about a week and build up the anticipation. don't give into the urge to do it. After that you may have some luck. I am in the same boat as you. My girlfriend can't do it without my help. We are planning to have sex for the first time on saturday. I haven't Masturbated for a week in hopes that I will be able to come without Masturbating myself.
oh ok thanks for help! Im guesing my problem is that i have trained myself over the years, to masterbate quickly and i am having a hard time trying to go slowly, or be normal.
I don't think that it is an issue of normalcy. Just repetition. Let your girl know what you like and explore new options to see if there is anything better.
lol, thats the problem.. i dont have a girl they are usually randoms and im usually kinda drunk. I doubt its the drunkness that is stopping me, because when i try the normal "sex speed" on myself it feels boring, and when adding a condom, it takes away from sensation even more to the point where it is numb:S
I got nothin'. I have told you all that i can think of on this issue. Maybe someone else can help.
ok man thanks for trying though. Im just going to stop masterbating for a couple weeks see how that goes, unless anyone else has any infoo.
Trudge, go out and buy some lube. Astroglide, KY, whatever.
Get in your favorite position, whether that is standing, sitting, lying down, whatever, get in it. Apply lubrication and take it nice and slow. Your most sensitive nerve endings are on the head, so make sure you stroke that when moving up and down. Close your eyes, don't tense the body, completely relax and TAKE YOUR TIME. Really, try to go for a thirty minute or so masturbation session. Increase your speed, make your grip tighter, whatever.
See if this works. Remember, you must be COMPLETELY RELAXED. Do it when you can't be interrupted. Don't use porn.
As the great poet Mary Oliver once said, "there is nothing so sensible as sensual inundation."
Good luck, soldier.
alright thanks ephemera i'll give it a shot;) lmao at soldier part:)