> I'm not very sexually experienced, but I have definitely cum from blowjobs before. However, with my current girlfriend, who I love very much, I can't seem to cum from a blowjob.

Hi,
Once again, this is a problem that has been addressed in an article listed in the Index.

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

> I can't identify what's going wrong to have her correct it!

It is explained in the link. What is likely happening is that you are being stimulated incorrectly for what is required to trigger your orgasm. There are two paths: think of them as a "Y". One leg of the "Y" leads to an orgasm because you are receiving the rhythms, motions, and, pressures, that you have come to rely upon over the years to trigger an orgasm. The other leg has a longer branch and continued stimulation will end up being far more intense, yet for all the stuff she does, it will not generally or always trigger an orgasm.

For an orgasm to happen, she must add a hand job to go along with the oral stimulation and then receive feedback (verbal or non-verbal) from you as to how you are responding and for what you need now! If you have not shown her how you masturbate, I recommend that you do so. If you want her to help you climax reliably, then let her learn to mimic your technique. Take her hand and guide her movements over several sessions until she learns how to duplicate what you have come to rely upon yourself. As she learns, give her feedback. None of us are mind readers, so if there is no feedback all any of us can hope for is a 50/50 chance of getting things right. With something so important, who wants this as their batting average? Feedback also applies to oral stimulation.

Speaking as someone who's been on the female end of this quandry...when I first started giving bjs it took me several attempts to learn to finish a guy without his help. Help her finish you, and help her feel ok with the fact that she needs you to do so right now. And the previous replier is right, help her learn how to finish you on her own. Every time my current bf and I do things together, we have kind of a de-brief afterward. Lots of times, specific feedback is impossible in the heat of the moment, for obvious reasons. Later on, get specific. Tell her what you were really liking, give her ideas on what might work better. Once a guy told me afterward, 'yeah I just need a LOT of friction and pressure in the last few moments'. Stuff like that is really helpful.

If she's timid in the bedroom, that's understandable. We all have been from time to time. God knows I have. Help her to know that's ok. Help her to feel comfortable coming out of that shell. Does it turn you on for a girl to take control sometimes? To have an idea or a desire and just go for it? Tell her that. She may need to hear you say you're not going to freak and run out of the room shrieking if she tries something that might be a little 'out there'.