Try building up your arousal with kissing and cuddling, and not rushing directly to oral or intercourse. You orgasm faster if you are more aroused, and it feels better because you are more attuned with your sexual organs and nerves.

[QUOTE=loverocks09;153618]alright thanks and thats good to know although i will say i'm kinda disapointed now because doing anything after school will be pointless because we only have 15 min but ah well
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here's a little tip for that... build up and save for the weekend... You will enjoy it more if you have quite a big build up and just want to release it. (will also take less time to do so if you are dying to release)

> the first time, she started giving me head and i wasn't sure if it was just because i wasn't expecting it or because i was standing or not but i couldn't really feel much and we had to stop short so we could make it to practice on time

For some reason I have yet to find an answer for, a guy can only stand for so much, as the saying goes, before his knees buckle and he goes crashing to the floor. Thank goodness our bathroom is carpeted! We do better sitting or lying down. (That is where we often end up when things begin in the shower.)

As for your feelings, if you were flacid when she began oral then that will explain the lack of sensation. Oral is best reserved for when we are erect and very very turned on.

> then that weekend we had some alone time at my house and with an hour left till we had to leave for band she started giving me head on my bed... and we were both getting kinda irritated cause i just could not get off and she was using her hands and deepthroating but i just couldn't get there

> I hope you didn't experience a case of Blue Balls while at practice. That could be distracting.

Was she actually performing "deep throat" or was your penis just going in near or all the way to the back of her mouth? Deep throating is a real art and requires much training and practice on the woman's part. Usually oral stimulation by way of the lips and tongue will excite a man well beyond the level required for intercourse. The reason you lasted so long and could not reach an orgasm is because the stimulation as good as it was was not correct for you.

> i had to get myself off which happend like 30 seconds after she walked away

You have just found the solution. If you think about it, from the time you first learned to masturbate, you quickly began developing a specific routine of motions, rhythms, and pressures that are unique to you. So, while we all understand the basic mechanics of stroking a penis and fingering a clitoris, it is this "Fine Art" that must be learned by our partner. I suggest showing each other how you masturbate and then taking each other's hand in turn and guiding each of your movements several times until each of you learns to mimic each other's technique.

It is possible to achieve orgasms just from oral stimulation; however, it is best to combine oral and a hand job near the peak of your arousal. Alternating back and for between the two is fine, although when you are near the brink of a climax, she should combine oral and manual stimulations. As part of this show her where your hotspots are. The A#1 hotspot is the Frenulum (Y-shaped ridge of skin extending from the cleft to the top of the shaft). Each of us usually has one or more distributed randomly about the Corona Rim. Rubbing all of these will do wonders for bringing about an orgasm. If you extrapolate what I've said, then getting off should be much easier when she uses both oral and hand and learns how best to use that hand. Your task is to help her learn what works for you because it is your pattern of movements that you rely upon when home alone. If you vary it too much either an orgasm will not happen, or, it will be less than desired.

Part II of this is to provide each other verbal or non-verbal feedback. Think about it; when we are masturbating, each of us benefits from internal feedback that helps us modulate our movements and make any midcourse corrections. This is missing when we turn the process over to our partner, and this is why verbal or non-verbal communication is so important. You can do an advanced search for more using my name and the key words "verbal" or "non-verbal".

> so far all her and i have come up with is that im just not gonna masturbate for 2 weeks before we do it again

Good luck. I rather doubt you can abstain for two weeks. I'll give you three days before you find your hand taking over only realizing that you have climxed after the fact!

ok.. well it is either anxiety issues or nervousness that may play a part.. but on the whole i am the same...

i can go over 1 hour with head, maybe 45 minutes with a hand job off my girlfriend, 30-60 minutes during sex.

Basically it is mostly based around your comfort leven and arousal.

Straight head does not get me off either, but giving head for a couple of minutes.. changing to hand for a few minutes then swapping back in that continuous loop will eventually make me orgasm.

I would not be complaining about the time it takes as during intercoarse this will usually please her more as if done properly will allow her yo orgasm during intercoarse before you do giving both of you a very very intimate and enjoyable moment..

Hope some of this helped.

I found talking dirty to my ex girlfriend when she was performing oral sex made a bit of difference. Like telling her how much you love your cock in her mouth etc etc. My ex also loved this too.

Just my 0.2 cents.