I ma pretty sure that most men find having the blower on front to be better for the reason Firmus mentions. If you have an upward curve then you might find that less fits into the blower's mouth. Still I find it more agreeable feeling.
Eh, I would go that far. I know that for the first few months of my wife and I back when we were dumb kids I didn't really know what I wanted until it would just randomly happen. Maybe this person just flat has only had crappy head and doesn't know what makes a good one good?
Like for example, for the longest time the convenient position for her giving was like if we were sitting on a couch together, or the car, she was off to the side and giving me one "sideways". This was obviously great, but I had no idea how much better it was with her in front of me facing me till we just happened to do it once like that. Just the mechanics of having her tongue now on the bottom instead of the top made a huge difference! But I wouldn't have known that, since I'd never experienced it.
But I know I'm just being pedantic. :) Now that I know all the ins and outs of what I like I'd be a fool to not instruct to those.
[QUOTE=Brandye;280137]The blower is not hitting the hotspots and the blowee is not guiding properly. Some men respond rapidly to oral and slowly to vaginal; some just the opposite. The two of you need to work the kinks out and what is good for one couple will not work for another couple. And, the difference is as much psychological as physiological. This stuff called sex is more complicated than learning to ride a bicycle.[/QUOTE]
Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Communication is the key. Feedback is the key. Reading suggested articles is important.
The blower is not hitting the hotspots and the blowee is not guiding properly. Some men respond rapidly to oral and slowly to vaginal; some just the opposite. The two of you need to work the kinks out and what is good for one couple will not work for another couple. And, the difference is as much psychological as physiological. This stuff called sex is more complicated than learning to ride a bicycle.
I agree with Brandye. And it's nice to hear (read) it coming from a woman that the blowee is not giving proper instruction. She might be afraid of what she's doing and you might be afraid to tell her what you want. I usually reach orgasm very quickly when fellatio is properly performed. Most men do.
In my case this is a matter of me letting my partner's left hand know what my left hand does. In other cases it could be right/left, or left/right or even right/right. My point is that communication is key to your success.
As explained in the article and elsewhere, while a woman may understand the basics of how to stroke and stimulate a penis, the specifics differ from man to man. From the completion of puberty onward, each boy quickly learns how to masturbate and then begins adding personal variations to the theme. These must be conveyed to each partner; moreover, because nobody is a mind reader, we must also let our partner know how we are responding to their touch and for what we need now/next. The same holds true for oral stimulation.
[CENTER]~ Explore and learn together in partnership ~[/CENTER]
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the Index found near the top of the main page. It contains links to helpful informative insightful as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page you will find even more information.
I recommend that you read each of the articles listed and add the information to what you already know. Knowledge is empowering. Here is a good place to begin:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
I ma pretty sure that most men find having the blower on front to be better for the reason Firmus mentions. If you have an upward curve then you might find that less fits into the blower's mouth. Still I find it more agreeable feeling.
Eh, I would go that far. I know that for the first few months of my wife and I back when we were dumb kids I didn't really know what I wanted until it would just randomly happen. Maybe this person just flat has only had crappy head and doesn't know what makes a good one good?
Like for example, for the longest time the convenient position for her giving was like if we were sitting on a couch together, or the car, she was off to the side and giving me one "sideways". This was obviously great, but I had no idea how much better it was with her in front of me facing me till we just happened to do it once like that. Just the mechanics of having her tongue now on the bottom instead of the top made a huge difference! But I wouldn't have known that, since I'd never experienced it.
But I know I'm just being pedantic. :) Now that I know all the ins and outs of what I like I'd be a fool to not instruct to those.
[QUOTE=Brandye;280137]The blower is not hitting the hotspots and the blowee is not guiding properly. Some men respond rapidly to oral and slowly to vaginal; some just the opposite. The two of you need to work the kinks out and what is good for one couple will not work for another couple. And, the difference is as much psychological as physiological. This stuff called sex is more complicated than learning to ride a bicycle.[/QUOTE]
what when the blowee doesnt know his hotpots?
> what when the blowee doesnt know his hotpots?
Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Communication is the key. Feedback is the key. Reading suggested articles is important.
Any man who does not recognize what feels good as it happens does not deserve to be the blowee.
The blower is not hitting the hotspots and the blowee is not guiding properly. Some men respond rapidly to oral and slowly to vaginal; some just the opposite. The two of you need to work the kinks out and what is good for one couple will not work for another couple. And, the difference is as much psychological as physiological. This stuff called sex is more complicated than learning to ride a bicycle.
I agree with Brandye. And it's nice to hear (read) it coming from a woman that the blowee is not giving proper instruction. She might be afraid of what she's doing and you might be afraid to tell her what you want. I usually reach orgasm very quickly when fellatio is properly performed. Most men do.
In my case this is a matter of me letting my partner's left hand know what my left hand does. In other cases it could be right/left, or left/right or even right/right. My point is that communication is key to your success.
As explained in the article and elsewhere, while a woman may understand the basics of how to stroke and stimulate a penis, the specifics differ from man to man. From the completion of puberty onward, each boy quickly learns how to masturbate and then begins adding personal variations to the theme. These must be conveyed to each partner; moreover, because nobody is a mind reader, we must also let our partner know how we are responding to their touch and for what we need now/next. The same holds true for oral stimulation.
[CENTER]~ Explore and learn together in partnership ~[/CENTER]
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the Index found near the top of the main page. It contains links to helpful informative insightful as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page you will find even more information.
I recommend that you read each of the articles listed and add the information to what you already know. Knowledge is empowering. Here is a good place to begin:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
-doc