There must be hundreds of posts on this. Look around.

> please tell me wat the problem is?

Most likely it is a common condition known as "Performance Anxiety". Do an advanced search using my name and that term.

Usually this condition manifests itself with the young man unable to maintain an erection, although it can do this to you as well.

> i had sex again in the mornin with my girlfriend but still couldnt
she sed it was the beer (i had 4 by the way)
but it cant e, we did it again yesterday mornin but i ended up finishing myself off... can ne1 please tell me wat the problem is??

Here are some points to think about:

* Drinking beer will affect perfomance.
* The liklihood of it having an affect the next morning or the next
day is unlikely
* That you ended up masturbating indicates that you were capable
of "performing" but that something was amiss in the way the two
of you were making out

+ It is this last item that bears investigation. Worrying about if or how well you can perform will definitely squelch a man's ability to perform.

+ If this was the first time for you, and you had some physical struggles entering then this can be enough to squelch your abilities.

+ If this was also her first time, then what I said, above, just increases.

+ If you were not sufficiently aroused when you did enter her, then more often than not lots and lots of stroking are required to raise your ardor sufficiently to trigger an orgasm. Depending upon the position(s) the two of you used, you may not have had sufficient (for the moment) contact in order to generate sufficient friction.

You should only enter when you are at or very nearly at the brink of an orgasm. This is why all the making out and foreplay are so important. Very often guys just brush by this critical part of lovemaking in their rush to the finish. Doing so is [COLOR="Red">WRONG![/COLOR] on several levels. Stroking maintains a pre-existing high state of arousal. It is not the purpose of intercourse to build you up. Because you could successfully masturbate, leads me to conclude that this scenario is what probably happened. Am I correct?

It's not uncommon to not finish your first time. I didn't. Give it time my friend, give it time. Lay off the alcohol while your at it.

> i didnt even think of foreplay etc before, so you ARE right i just tried to dash to the finish both me and my partner get tired very easy as well...

You didn't? :confused: Shucks, I thought every guy thought about getting his hands all over a girl's body. :cool:

It is important that you know and understand that the female and male physiologies are very different. While a guy can be ready for an orgasm in a matter of minutes, a woman requires a long deliberate climb to her peak. This can take half an hour and if you have more time (within reason) you should be spending it making out and building her anticipation, excitement, tension, and ardor. Oh, sure, we all can have a "Quickie" once in a while, but that is different than the usual scenario.

> both me and my partner get tired very easy as well.

Tired as in fatigued, exhausted, sleepy?

i play sports and find having intercoarse and foreplay is a breeze. we have had a few all nighters no worries. (get an exercise bike and do 30 minutes a day. it will help. or a home gym) believe me, you enjoy it alot more when you are not thinking how much hard work it is.

you will start to enjoy it alot more than you already are

even getting up early of a morning and going for a 30 min run then coming home, and getting ready for work will help (or 1 hour bike ride, usually double as riding a bike is easier than running)

or doing it before bed will also help you to sleep if you suffer from this and get you alot fitter so you can last it out.

I must say again that there is nothing better than not worrying about how tired you are/getting and how much longer u can keep going for as u will be fit and thus enjoy it throughout the whole time not worrying about getting tired.