i'm new to this site and not sure where the right places are to ask these kind of questions, but i'm pretty inexperienced when it comes to sex and the girl i'm interested in seems much more experienced than me (and i'm pretty sure she is).
she said she did a "tripod". what exactly is that?
I went to urban dictionary and it told me it was essentially a gangbang and then google searches told me it was something less intense. Can someone please help straighten this out for me? thanks
here were the links i looked up when trying to figure out what it was:
-definitions 5 and 6: Urban Dictionary: tripod
-http://www.articlesbase.com/sexuality-articles/kama-sutra-standing-posit...
-http://books.google.com/books?id=Cx62zwSwbcsC&pg=PA146&lpg=PA146&dq=tripod +sex+position&source=bl&ots=98Lrz9iAXi&sig=biE-krnny18pjswItdpSNtpTb_c&hl=en&ei=d8uWTZrcM-mN0QGavZT1Cw&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum= 8&ved=0CEkQ6AEwBzgK#v=onepage&q=tripod%20sex%20pos ition&f=false
any help asap would be greatly appreciated, thank you
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HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:
Next: If you are new & have no experience (Pt. 2 of HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED!:
If you are a guy who happens to be shy or uncertain about making the first move, know that this is OK. My suggestion is: (Part 2 of Chapter 5)
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
Why don't you try talking to your gf about this? Admit your inexperienced. I mean do you really want to "act" like you know what you were doing then wind up falling prey to the "newb" mistakes and looking like an oaf in bed. (Since you lead her to believe you were experienced)
A tripod could be a lot of different things. It could be a reference to a man with a large member. She "did" a "tripod". It could be a gang bang. It could be a regular position. I once had a girl tell me she was made "airtight" the common definition is when 3 guys are penetrating her (anally, vaginally, and orally) and then a the man pinches her nose shut. I was very disturbed at the thought until I found out she used the meaning as "I deepthroated and couldn't breathe".
As far as her being experienced, read the articles doc wrote. Honestly you should consider yourself lucky. If she is smart, she would realize she has a "fresh" canvas so to speak. You seem fairly new. Perhaps only a few "encounters". This means you haven't learned the nasty habits that a lot of guys pick up through their encounters. I consider myself very lucky. I mean my partner was a virgin. I've basically taught her everything I know. She is tons a fun because she didn't get the "love = sex" idea. She just learned sex is fun and it reflects in our sex life.
So...to sum it up:
1. Talk to her. A successful relationship is based on communication...especially when it comes to sex.
2. Enjoy the fact that she is experienced...it means you will learn a few new "tricks".
3. Relax!!!
Firstly, Thanks Doc and Ducy for your words of wisdom. They have set my mind at ease.
Secondly, Ducy, you were right, I had unfortunately blown this out of proportion unnecessarily. It turns out she just hooked up w/ a guy who was hung, but i still ended up looking and feeling like an idiot, but apparently she doesn't seem to care, she even told me.
I mean now we're friends (i think), i told her that I honestly liked her and that there wasn't much that was gonna change that, although she told me that it will never work out. She apparently knew I liked her, and then proceeded to tell me that she was kinda interested in/in something with some other guy. So now I'm kinda confused as to where this leaves me, but I'm taking it slow, not forcing things.
Is there still hope here? Cause I really fell hard for this girl, she's pretty amazing both physically and in terms of personality and it would be utterly amazing if this worked out. But then again I don't want to be love sick or come off desperate.
The only way to not come off as desperate is to not be. She has stated she thinks it won't work between the two of you. Don't burn a bridge and leave the option to be friends or more in the future. Now you move on and find other girls, there are plenty of good ones out there. We've all been there when we think this person is awesome and focus all of our attention on them. Then you realize hey there are a lot of girls I can have great relationships with or just great sex. Basically get rid of the idea of a soul mate. Plenty of girls that you can make happy and plenty that will make you happy.
Fortunately, I already came to that conclusion, and a lot of good friends told me to let it be that way too.
Unfortunately, for the time being, she is the girl that I want. I'm fine w/ hooking up w/ other girls and staying friends w/ her to see if this goes anywhere, but honestly I hate some of the bullshit that has to be dealt with when hooking up with a girl. I'm not one for games; flirting, okay, but not games. That type of thing pisses me off.
Sorry if I came off sounding like a douche or anything, that's just how I feel about hooking up just for the sake of hooking up; there really shouldn't be any bullshit involved, just be straightforward and get on w/ it, u know?
You didnt come off as a douche,We all have our stories and complaints. It isjust the way it is. If you don't develop a relationship with someone hopefully you can find a fwb. That way you get your experience and confidence without the games. Theyre out there just keep on keeping on.
To be honest, after this whole experience, I don't think I'll be having any problems w/ confidence, just trying to keep this girl off my mind haha
T_MM, please read my reply to this thread from a few days ago.
The best advice I can give about sex is not to be afraid to try new things. Experiment with new positions and listen to your woman. When she sounds pleased, pay attention to what you're doing and keep doing it. After you've tried a few different ones, ask her what her favorite position is. She might surprise you.
Dude...honestly just walk away. You have feelings for her. She has told you no and your going to go hook up with others while waiting for her to possibly come around.
I have seen tons of people go through this same ordeal. Not to sound like a jerk but this is really your best course of action IMO. You already have blown things out of proportion and I think its safe to say it will happen again!
Also there aren't "games" to be played if you hook up with a mature girl. Usually when it comes down to it, I can text 90% of the older ladies in my phone and simply ask her. If I text the younger (18 to 20ish) they like to be flirty and use a lot of maybe ;) which is usually a..I want to but if I say yes ill look like a slut but ill keep him guessing by using a winky face and get him tot talk to me more.
And before someone calls me a pig let me tell you that I'm respectful to women, I make my intentions clear and generally if I like a girl and she is not interested in a relationship I am not afraid to walk away if I truly can't put my feelings aside.