[QUOTE=d-boy;236469]I been with my girl a few yrs now. She's 25 yrs old. As a young teen she had many,many sexual partners, as well as partners with bigger penises. Makes me wonder is our sex life anything special. She's matured now and a whole diffrent person.[/QUOTE]
You sound as if you're jealous that she has been with so many guys.
I say you show her how amazing you can be in bed by learning all you can on how to please her and communicating, it is a very rare man who can give explosive orgasms to a woman. If you make the effort to learn and please her to the fullest amount, your sex with her will be more than special, trust me.
It's not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean. Either way if she liked larger penises, well there are several positions which can give her the deep feeling.
I recommend you look at the "stickies" and at the home page for positions and helpful tips to use. Always pay close attention to her reactions
Eh, I've never understood how or why sex can be or needs to be special?
It's a function much like going to bathroom and breathing. What's so special about it? It helps a couple bond, it's fun to do but beyond that, there's nothing especially "special" about it that I can see.
[QUOTE=wet_suit_one;236490]Eh, I've never understood how or why sex can be or needs to be special?
It's a function much like going to bathroom and breathing. What's so special about it? It helps a couple bond, it's fun to do but beyond that, there's nothing especially "special" about it that I can see.
Or am I somehow mistaken?[/QUOTE]
You just haven't found the right person me thinks :D
It isn't so much that sex be special, it is in how the relationship can be special. I recommend that you click on the Index at the top of the main screen and read every article listed on the two pages more than once. In addition, go to the library and read the Joy of Sex and books on relationships.
If you learn how to build a fantastic relationship that satisfies each of your needs and then learn how to make love, and work on this, then you can learn how to make the mechanics better.
Sex CAN be "special" in many amazing ways. We've been endowed with the physical equipment to allow us to have remarkable sensations during lovemaking--but it's much move than just the physical act which produced those remarkable sensations--it must be a dynamic balance of the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual connection between 2 partners. When these 4 forces are dynamically in play, then the feelings can be beyond blissful, all the way to godly or divine. This is the Tantric approach to sex, and is one of the paths to self-realization.
Michael
[QUOTE=mikkiji;236500]Sex CAN be "special" in many amazing ways. We've been endowed with the physical equipment to allow us to have remarkable sensations during lovemaking--but it's much move than just the physical act which produced those remarkable sensations--it must be a dynamic balance of the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual connection between 2 partners. When these 4 forces are dynamically in play, then the feelings can be beyond blissful, all the way to godly or divine. This is the Tantric approach to sex, and is one of the paths to self-realization.
Michael[/QUOTE]
Why "must" it this "dynamic balance" you speak of? Why can't it be simply wham bam thank you mam, I'll see you next week? This idea of "must" be this or that seems oppressive to me. Rather like a woman must be slim, or blond or have big boobs to be attractive. Why can't we just take it for what it is if that's one's choice?
[QUOTE=wet_suit_one;236522]Why "must" it this "dynamic balance" you speak of? Why can't it be simply wham bam thank you mam, I'll see you next week? This idea of "must" be this or that seems oppressive to me. Rather like a woman must be slim, or blond or have big boobs to be attractive. Why can't we just take it for what it is if that's one's choice?
Why "must" it be something?[/QUOTE]
I think that comes down to the age ol' comparison of sex vs. "making love"?!?
[QUOTE]I've known my girl since she was 13. Now she's 23. But as a young teen she had a bad reputation as lots of sexual partners. After 18 she calmed down and she now has 2 kids. We been together a year now. How can a girl change her ways from fucking hella guys to acting like a lady.
[/QUOTE]
And this from your other post dboy.... I don't think you can compare anyone really to how they were as teenagers?!?
I used to do a lot of drugs in high school/college...but I don't now.
Why? I grew up, matured, went into the "real world", realized it wasn't how I wanted to be anymore... I mean so many things make us change over the years. Plus, I don't have kids, put I hear they really put things into perspective!
[QUOTE=d-boy;236469]I been with my girl a few yrs now. She's 25 yrs old. As a young teen she had many,many sexual partners, as well as partners with bigger penises. Makes me wonder is our sex life anything special. She's matured now and a whole diffrent person.[/QUOTE]
You sound as if you're jealous that she has been with so many guys.
I say you show her how amazing you can be in bed by learning all you can on how to please her and communicating, it is a very rare man who can give explosive orgasms to a woman. If you make the effort to learn and please her to the fullest amount, your sex with her will be more than special, trust me.
It's not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean. Either way if she liked larger penises, well there are several positions which can give her the deep feeling.
I recommend you look at the "stickies" and at the home page for positions and helpful tips to use. Always pay close attention to her reactions
Eh, I've never understood how or why sex can be or needs to be special?
It's a function much like going to bathroom and breathing. What's so special about it? It helps a couple bond, it's fun to do but beyond that, there's nothing especially "special" about it that I can see.
Or am I somehow mistaken?
[QUOTE=wet_suit_one;236490]Eh, I've never understood how or why sex can be or needs to be special?
It's a function much like going to bathroom and breathing. What's so special about it? It helps a couple bond, it's fun to do but beyond that, there's nothing especially "special" about it that I can see.
Or am I somehow mistaken?[/QUOTE]
You just haven't found the right person me thinks :D
It isn't so much that sex be special, it is in how the relationship can be special. I recommend that you click on the Index at the top of the main screen and read every article listed on the two pages more than once. In addition, go to the library and read the Joy of Sex and books on relationships.
If you learn how to build a fantastic relationship that satisfies each of your needs and then learn how to make love, and work on this, then you can learn how to make the mechanics better.
Sex CAN be "special" in many amazing ways. We've been endowed with the physical equipment to allow us to have remarkable sensations during lovemaking--but it's much move than just the physical act which produced those remarkable sensations--it must be a dynamic balance of the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual connection between 2 partners. When these 4 forces are dynamically in play, then the feelings can be beyond blissful, all the way to godly or divine. This is the Tantric approach to sex, and is one of the paths to self-realization.
Michael
[QUOTE=mikkiji;236500]Sex CAN be "special" in many amazing ways. We've been endowed with the physical equipment to allow us to have remarkable sensations during lovemaking--but it's much move than just the physical act which produced those remarkable sensations--it must be a dynamic balance of the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual connection between 2 partners. When these 4 forces are dynamically in play, then the feelings can be beyond blissful, all the way to godly or divine. This is the Tantric approach to sex, and is one of the paths to self-realization.
Michael[/QUOTE]
Why "must" it this "dynamic balance" you speak of? Why can't it be simply wham bam thank you mam, I'll see you next week? This idea of "must" be this or that seems oppressive to me. Rather like a woman must be slim, or blond or have big boobs to be attractive. Why can't we just take it for what it is if that's one's choice?
Why "must" it be something?
[QUOTE=wet_suit_one;236522]Why "must" it this "dynamic balance" you speak of? Why can't it be simply wham bam thank you mam, I'll see you next week? This idea of "must" be this or that seems oppressive to me. Rather like a woman must be slim, or blond or have big boobs to be attractive. Why can't we just take it for what it is if that's one's choice?
Why "must" it be something?[/QUOTE]
I think that comes down to the age ol' comparison of sex vs. "making love"?!?
[QUOTE]I've known my girl since she was 13. Now she's 23. But as a young teen she had a bad reputation as lots of sexual partners. After 18 she calmed down and she now has 2 kids. We been together a year now. How can a girl change her ways from fucking hella guys to acting like a lady.
[/QUOTE]
And this from your other post dboy.... I don't think you can compare anyone really to how they were as teenagers?!?
I used to do a lot of drugs in high school/college...but I don't now.
Why? I grew up, matured, went into the "real world", realized it wasn't how I wanted to be anymore... I mean so many things make us change over the years. Plus, I don't have kids, put I hear they really put things into perspective!
hopefully its maturity. And a diffrent look at life
You're all missing the point. He's not really wondering is the sex is special - which, of course, it should be; he's worrying if HE is special to her.
Because he focusing on all of her other past lovers and mentally comparing them to him. The sex is just a red herring.
DUDE - she is with YOU, not them.
Therein lies your answer.
WSO you have angst-ridden questions? - make your own thread.
Yeah, I do do a fair bit of hijacking don't I?
My bad...