the girl im with rite now gets sore from having just one finger in her...and its not that easy getting even that in, even if shes really wet. is that abnormal? and if it is (or even if its not) is there any way of making her more...acomidating without streatching her permenately?
Fri, 09/08/2006 - 05:56
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can a girl be to tight?
We all are born virgins. Life experiences can loosen us up or not. Every woman will be a bit different but with early teens, tightness is not unusual. She will learn to deal with it. Not much you can do.
i was so tight my first and second time the guy could only get 1/2 way in. so i thought i was a half virgin. no, i wasn't a virgin, that was some messed up thinking i think. well, i took it upon myself to remedy that problem by buying kyjelly and slathering it on my guys member. it slipped all the way in. so lubricants are your best friend at first. :)
I can't remember it for the life of me, but there is a "syndrome" that some women have that make it SUPER painful to be penetrated... Its really rare from what i remember, but if it doesn't get better, she may want to see her doctor about it.
If one of your fingers is too much, i would suggest starting with one of her fingers, which i'm guessing is going to be smaller then yours... if she isn't ok with that, then a super thin dildo or vibe could do the trick...
good luck
Kahuna,
You are tlking about vaginismus. Does not sound like it here.
[QUOTE=Brandye;152659]Kahuna,
You are tlking about vaginismus. Does not sound like it here.[/QUOTE]
actualy...it may be. i looked it up and alot of what weve been experiancing is very similar to what they described. (even the thin tampons hurt her" obviously im not going to be jumping to any conclutions but you know...its something to concider. they say its a psychological problm more than anything, witch ive notice to be true in my case too. im thinking im just going to take it as slow as i have to and keep her compleatly relaxed and reasured...see what happens.
my good gawd!! it's okay to get up to speed with sex...but for the love of geezuz...use some sort of spell checker!!....
[QUOTE=Luvs2plzU;152699]my good gawd!! it's okay to get up to speed with sex...but for the love of geezuz...use some sort of spell checker!!....[/QUOTE]
wow, thanx. your really helpfull. im glad you decided to be such a productive member of this forum... does it make you feel beter about yourself being an ass? let me guess...your the guy who joined so he could check up on the "penis size 101" posts. insecure bastard. i have no idea why you even waisted your time posting if thats all you had to say. kuz personaly i would use a spellcheck if i really thot people like you were even worth the time.
Yep your right...I was a bit harsh about the spelling test...actually as I rethink it...there should be MANDATORY IQ level for people to have sex...because Lord help them if something go wrong and they get pregnant, neither of them would be able to properly fill out an employment form, to get gainful employment and support the "child"...
[QUOTE=Luvs2plzU;152815]...actually as I rethink it...there should be MANDATORY IQ level for people to have sex...[/QUOTE]
Half the time I'll agree to that. The other half of the time I'll want to crucify that argument :P
Here's why:
Do we really need to get the government involved? They have enough crap to deal with already. What standards do we base it on? The same standards as the drivers' tests? Those are a joke in most states.
Second reason. It's tough luck for the kid, but sometimes people just have to deal with the consequences of their stupid actions. If I want to dance in front of a freight train, that's my prerogative. There is no way to prevent you from being a fool. If you want to go skydiving, same deal. If you don't want to wear your seatbelt while driving, same story. Who are we to prevent you from going out and screwing yourself over? This is America, the "Land of the Free" - you have the right to be a dumb****.
Edit: just realized how off topic that was from the original subject :eek:
I hear ya...:)....only thing is a NEWBORN child had NO SAY in the deal!!...consequences of stupidity hurting only the stupid one..IS GOOD...when it affects others...IT'S BAD...
[QUOTE=Luvs2plzU;152815]Yep your right...I was a bit harsh about the spelling test...actually as I rethink it...there should be MANDATORY IQ level for people to have sex...because Lord help them if something go wrong and they get pregnant, neither of them would be able to properly fill out an employment form, to get gainful employment and support the "child"...[/QUOTE]
since it seems to be a personal concern for you ill be kind enough to ease your mind, lest you worry. so, hope you feel beter knowing i know more about the english lang. than you would ever care to know, as im both an acomplished poet and a writer and most likely exceeding you greatly in intelect. however yes i do have a learning disability, one ive strugled with all my life, and yes i do tend to spell things pheneticaly most of the time and dont bother checking my spelling when posting things on the internet. so if you would be so kind as to shut the **** up, id really apreciate it. however im glad you have the balls to point out others flaws...it takes a big man to be constatly making himself feel bigger.
p.s. Are you truly implying some sort of prejudice by putting quotes around “child”? because I severely hope im mistaking…
"Edit: just realized how off topic that was from the original subject
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dont worry about it...honestly i find it interesting what your talking about. its quite the catch 22 if you ask me...its either the blind leading the blind of the dumb leading amarica (aka the dumb) because your rite, its a hard decision to make: would we rather unqualified parents influincing the youth of our nation? or should it be our flawed governments responsibility to influance said (soon to be) parent? and if not the birth parents nor the government who? what group of people would be so unanomously egotistical that they deem themselves fit to judge others ability to function naturaly? to have the intelect to abide by whats said to be instinct (in woment atleast) and if we do somehow reach a standard of qualification...what hapens to those who consumate and yet are found "not up to par"? quite another debate arises then...and thats one debate i always try to avoid...
I've read your stuff...I love MAD magazine
Just to, I don't know, slightly steer back toward the original topic:
Apparently the doctor says there is a medical condition that's can be a problem: don't know much about that. But, in the more standard world: my slightly-informed observation is that some women (most, maybe) start out pretty tight, but open up naturally as the action proceeds. Sometimes you have to start out with just your little finger, but before long there's no problem with room for wider things. I wouldn't be surprised if it takes longer for some women than others; it might vary with her level of experience (maybe - I don't really know).
[QUOTE=NizeGie;152885]Just to, I don't know, slightly steer back toward the original topic:
Apparently the doctor says there is a medical condition that's can be a problem: don't know much about that. But, in the more standard world: my slightly-informed observation is that some women (most, maybe) start out pretty tight, but open up naturally as the action proceeds. Sometimes you have to start out with just your little finger, but before long there's no problem with room for wider things. I wouldn't be surprised if it takes longer for some women than others; it might vary with her level of experience (maybe - I don't really know).[/QUOTE]
makes sence...shes just afraid of becoming loose tho...she takes everything to exstreams. example: she tries not to be confident in herself for fear of being concieted. its hard to deal with sometimes...is there any reasurance i can give on this particular topic? will her body become acustom to acomidating a certan sized object and stop there or is it just the action of putting something in that stratches her, and will continue doing so every time?
P.S. im kinda new here but is there a way you can just block certain members from harassing you? because certain people here are just plain imature.
The tighter the better
For one thing, how old is she?
[QUOTE=jonnyonaleash;152876]... so, hope you feel beter knowing i know more about the english lang. than you would ever care to know, as im both an acomplished poet and a writer and most likely exceeding you greatly in intelect. [/QUOTE]
You'd think someone who knew so much about the English language would know to capitalize "English." :)
shes 18 now. and we just tried to have sex for the first time and...i dont know if she was ready phisicaly. i thought she was but i guess i was rong because she was still so tight that it hurt me.
p.s. seriously people lay off the spelling. its an online mesage board, im not gonna waste my time making sure everythings perfect. im getting my point across and thats all that matters. i swear...some people just take things way to seriously, why does it matter?
If she actually wants to be able to accomodate a penis comfortably, she should stretch out and practice by herself. I recall Dancingdoc2 has some good posts on how to do that, you could search for those and show them to her.
However from what you say it seems like she has an attitude about her own tightness that's all wrong in the first place. Assure her that if she keeps her kegel muscles in shape she will never become too loose--she can look up how to exercise her kegels, maybe it will help her not to worry about it.
It's got me wondering why this is so important to her anyway; does she think she will be seen as a "slut" if she's too loose down there? That's about as civilized as medieval people hanging up the bloodstained sheets to prove a newlywed girl was a virgin. Though tightness follows some general rules that I'm sure we've all heard a million times, it really does vary for every woman and every situation. Nothing in sex is perfect, and I think it will cause more harm than good if she really worries about this.
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p.s. I realize you're probably sensitive about spelling because of its connection to your learning disability, but I must register my regret that you consider online communication of so little importance that you aren't even going to abide by spelling/grammar/capitalization.
As a writer, you should know that making sure that everything you send out into the world is well-crafted makes your writing that much better and easier. And as someone who considers himself to have intellect, you should know that people who read resumes for high-level jobs (esp. law-related) will absolutely toss them out the window on the grounds of spelling. You are what you read and write: that's why it matters.
Sorry to sound like a mean old pedant, but I am pretty sour on the whole "the internet doesn't count" philosophy of spelling/grammar. If anything, the reverse is the case, since anyone can see what you write on the internet and the same is not true of, say, a personal journal.
I often (facetiously) express my desire for a law requiring people to solve a differential equation before they're allowed to vote. I don't mind meritocratic developments in the abstract, but in practice I want the government to be kept as far away as possible from everything of personal value. And hey who knows, maybe the unbridled baby-making mentioned will in time cause humans to evolve smaller heads, so childbirth won't hurt. w00t!
Wow…finally someone who is helpful. Thank you so much. Honestly I have no clue as to why she’s so worried about it; she says it just feels different. I’ll definitely tell her about the kegel exercises, I’m surprised I hadn’t thought of that actually, so thanks a million for pointing it out.
Btw, about the spelling and grammar thing…its not that I don’t find the internet a useful tool, and I in no way look down on people who use it (what kind of hypocrisy would that be?). I just have a lot to do and don’t always have time to polish a post before submitting it. I’d still like to be treated like anyone else in search of knowledge on this site…even if I don’t have the same kind of time everyone else does. If you noticed though I put a little more effort into responding to your comment than the others, because you were so kind in stating your opposition. I can respect that.