This does happen to some guys.
Also check to see if he needs a bigger size condom... if it's too restricting it can cause him to lose his erection.

How do you know it is not the size of the condom? Has he tried two or more sizes to test? Also, apply lubrication to the Glans only of the penis in order to gain more wiggle room.

How aroused and close to a climax is he at the time the condom is rolled on and you begin intercourse? If too early, then this can be a problem. I recommend that you build his arousal near the point of loosing control before rolling on the condom, even if this means getting into position, first.

There is a recent trend mainly by young guys who are working under the misconception that lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking is the way to build and trigger an orgasm. WRONG. If this is what you two are doing, then change your method.

Erections are heavily influenced by psychological factors. Guys - young guys anyway - can, and often do, get erections for purely psychological reasons. A tight sweater on the right body can be enough. And then, of course, there's Lt. Slothrop, but let's not even get into that.

So ... just about anything can make a guy lose an erection, if his psychology makes it happen.

I'm not getting behind the notion that the size of the condom - or anything physical, really - is likely to be a major factor, if he's putting it on and immediately losing an erection right off the bat (so to speak). Anyway, it'd have to be one seriously tight condom (as in, "Good God almighty, I can't believe we finally got that thing on!")

Some sort of counseling might be in order. Or there may be some exercises you could find somewhere or even make up. Maybe something as simple as having him try putting on a condom when he masturbates by himself or something.

For some men, any delay ormoving around to gain entry will result in some loss of erection. I cannot say it is not the condom, but something else is likely involved. If all the male condom haters in the world were given an alternative of no sex, they would love them.

my partner was sort of the same. we already enjoyed sex with condoms but once we stopped using them he said it felt ten times better. if its the loss of sensation he doesnt like try ultrathin condoms

Try different kinds of condoms. Try the ultra-thin condoms and the ones that are twisted such as Durex Twisted Pleasure or Inspiral. Try buying a sampler pack online or at the store and try those condoms to see if you can find one that he likes. But please do not go without a condom! It is dangerous as you can get an STD or have an unwanted pregnancy.

I've had this problem too from time to time. Maybe its psychological. I hate condoms. I think they are a barrier which prevents a guy from experiencing the full pleasure of sex, but I use them because I have no alternative.

Men must wear condoms. Sorry, but there it is. But Dancin' Doc has a point - your technique can go a long long way to solving the issue. Body worship, extended foreplay, erotic massage, focusing upon her and alternative sex skills - all can play a vital role in making erections stay hard even with condom use.

It can be a size problem or a mind problem. The fact is: not using condom have much better feel than use it.
Also, some guys are allergic to condoms/latex and it is my case. I'm allergic to it, but if i really need to use it i don't mind too, i just have to go quickly for a shower after sex. If i don't wash my penis immediately I'll have skin irritation.

Personally i find that putting on a condom or stopping foreplay can make me go semi limp. I notice that if you try stroking while getting the condom ready than it can help...it does for me. just do not let him rope you into the whole no condom thing...always use protection, even if it means using ultrathin condoms and getting him close with some other form of pleasure before hand.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;192636]Men must wear condoms. Sorry, but there it is. [/QUOTE]

Must? On who's authority? Well, I understand the reasons for them, but that doesn't change the fact that I hate the things. I use them because I'm not monogamous, but I really wish there was a better alternative. Don't see the need for them in a monogamous relationship, though, provided both partners are faithful to each other and some other form of contraception is used.

Why are you asking me about "must" when you do use them? Of course you hate them! I'm not fond, or I wasn't, of having to take BCPs but I did. Just part of the deal especially if one is NOT monogamous. No need to go all "aggro" over something like that.

They do make polyurethane condoms for those who are allergic to latex. Go to www.condomania.com. Use the correct type and size.

Some BCP's (Femcon) are now chewable---just a FYI.

You DON'T like foreplay?!?!?!?! EGAD! WHY EVER NOT???

You could get him so wound up that, condom or not, he'll stay rock hard though the heavens were falling!

And vice versa!

Why have only, what, 15 minutes of sex when you can have 4 or 5 hours of mind-blowing sex??

Sorry, but you're going to have to explain that.

Why cant you swallow your BCP? And if you cant then why dont you try something like nuva ring or the depo? dont need to swallow anything...and maybe thats why your boyfriend goes limp....i need foreplay to get me going....even if its just making out for an hour....unless you guy are just always going for a quickie

I wasn't aggro, EEK.

Okay, cycle, hun.

[QUOTE=shell023;192824]I just can't swollow any kinda of tablet. Its purely a mental thing. Whats depo??
No we're not having just quickies..We could have hours of foreplay and he be hard for it but hen condom goes on and it softens up a bit.[/QUOTE]

Depo Provera....i think thats what its called....its a shot that is used as birth control.

Ok, everyone has said a lot of things here, but none seem to be from experience. One, it could VERY well be the size of the condom, I wear cannot wear anything smaller than a magnum because it starts to really hurt and I lose interest. ALSO I too used to lose my erection during sex and be hard as a tree during foreplay, try using ultra thin condoms. My problem was that I just wasn't feeling very much so I lost the mood, and my gf wanted to wear condoms so I respected that.

Yeah Depo is a shot you get once every three months my girl was on it for quite awhile, but it can't be a long term thing or else it can screw up your reproduction organs.

Depo Provera is a hormone injection given every 3 months (you have a 5 day window) and can be used for many years without issue. Adjusting to the Depo is problematic for some women, the major pitfall is once it is in your body (injected) it cannot be reversed; therefore, if you are having negative side effects they do not wear away until the end of the shot.

One main issue using Depo over ANY period of time is; the time it will take your body to return to fertility. It's not uncommon for it to take up to one year. For other's it's a few months less; other a few months more. In short, Depo puts your "state of reproduction" in a near dormant stage.

I used it for years, had no issue with it & it worked well for me. Other's have had tough time and negative side effects. Returning to a menstrual cycle took me about 1 year after stopping the injection; this was induced by my gyn doc since I had wanted to begin a family. It was nice also, not having a period for a few years and no hormonal swings! Unfortunately my experiences are not as common.

Sadly, that's apart of life. Ya win some, ya lose some, hope **** gets better for you!

Please do not expect men to be machines. Show some grace here. Denigrating a man due to "organ failure" is like him castigating you for your sexual shortcomings.

If you wouldn't like it done to you; don't do it to others.

Shell, sorry to hear about your breakup. If you don't like shots or tablets, tho, there are still some more birth control options for you. I'm on Nuva ring, and there is also the patch, or an IUD. Check the birth control section for more info.

Thats harsh shell...its pretty obivous that you werent ready for sex...or werent willing to take responsibilty....I mean hey at least your boyfriend was protecting himself....the only person using protection...maybe thats why he couldnt stay hard....if you were really so worried about being protected you would be on birth control....not being able to swallow pills yeah thats legite....and so is being afraid of needles....but there are so many different options....just look on the front page of this website....sounds to me like you were looking for someone to blame if you got pregnant since you werent willing to use a diaphragm, spermicide, IUD, Nuvar ring along with the condom.....

Sorry if you guys think this is harsh, but I hate it when people take such cheap shots against their boyfriends or girlfriends.:mad: