hello to all.
this is a question for the doctors and women out there.
since a while ago, even before our marriage, me and my wire had a problem relating to the fact that she would feel skin burn and disconfort on the missionary position, in the sense that even with lots of lube, natural and / or sintetic, i would have to enter very slowly and take a lot of time for it to go away. this is much less on doggy style. then after a while we talked more about it, and she showed me the state she stays afterwards, with the very thin membrane on the opening of the vagina, close to the anus, not the clitoris, very red and according to her burning and very painful.
we related this to maybe she being very tight. i normally even take her to orgasm before i enter her, and her gynocologist does not point out a problem. this is very annoying, and painful to her, and i am not that big at all.
any thoughts?
thx in advance.
Always glad to see the Scottish Portugee back for a visit! Now, we need some clarification. The "very thin membrane" at the entrance to the vagina is the hymen but, with a few years of sexual activity, it should be gone. If she had a very thick hymen to begin with, that could give the feeling of extreme tightness and could also be easily irritated. This would place the irritation around the vaginal entrance within the labia.
The area you mention between the anus and the vaginal entrance is the perineum. This is behind the labia and not right at the entrance. You and your wife get out a diagram and a mirror for her and determine whether this is the area of irritation. This would bring up other questions of her being allergic to latex, the lube you are using, even to you!
You two need to determine then whether the problem is at the entrance which indicates a gynaecologist could help a bit, or if it is the perineum whic is normally sensitive to stimulation (good) but not usually to abrasion (bad) during sex. Whichever, she needs to describe exactly what is happening to her doctor so this can be addressed.
Hi Brandye
Just to be extremely specific, we went to google images. :-D
We got this picture:
http://chestofbooks.com/health/anatomy/Human-Body-Construction/images/Fi...
The area affected is the posterior commissure.
The pain is similar to a tear or a cut, and according to her it burns and hurts like a cut, lasting for 24 hours. This happens most of the times we have sex, again, more into face to face positions like the missionary than in doggy style positions.
Any thoughts on that? :( Me really wants to help her.
Cheers
Alban
An abrasion in this area would be re-irritated each time you have sex. Use alternatives to vaginal sex for a fortnight to allow it to heal and then see if it is a problem after that. It would help to have a look so, again, it is a good idea to describe the issue in detail with her doctor.
ok, we will see that and she'll talk it over with the doctor. :D thx
Dear AL,
Asking her doc is always the best thing :) But since you've also asked for thoughts of women: I experience skin burn in the exact same area and also especially with missionary. It gets all red and at times a bit swollen as well :(
If it's not too personal, let me ask you: do you coincidentally shave down there? Cause that could contribute to the problem. My bf and I found out it happens while he's a bit lazy on his grooming ;) He shaves his balls. If the hairs are not long enough to be soft, yet too long to remain unnoticed, it tends to rub against me, especially in missionary. At the time it doesn't hurt, but afterwards it does. Just like women would get those burns on their face after kissing a men that hasn't shaved his beard for a few days, same could happen down there... :o
If you are abrading the posterior commissure when using the male superior (missionary) position during sex - you're NOT getting your angles right. But precisely which angle would work best for you depends upon your penis especially its curvature, if as you say girth is not the problem.
Experiment together.
And yes, no more shaving!